Pregnant with 4th child............?

Question

I am pregnant with my 4th child. I have 3 daughters ages 2,4,6. They at least the older ones do not want another child. I just asked them what they thought about having a brother or sister. They loooked at me like I was crazy and said no. I am in the process of opening a business and I am not sure if I want a 4th child. I am not marries but my boyfriend who is the father of all 4 and I live together and he recently asked me to marry him. I do not know what to do. he tells me he is just scared of having another girl. I am too. But i dont think my family would be happy (my mom that is) Please bring this to prospective for me.

Answer 1

1) This is YOUR pregnancy. If you didn't want another child, you should have used protection. To say "I'm not sure if I want a 4th child" is a little too late.

2) Marry your boyfriend and get those kids a father AND husband. If you're been able to be together for at least 6 years, I'm amazed that you haven't demanded a ring yet.

3) What business are you opening? You need to decide NOW what you're going to do before you lose money by or by not opening it.

4) You can't choose the gender. If it's a 4th girl, do you mean that you won't love her? YOU need to be the parent here and do what's best for the family. You and your boyfriend need to decide together what you should do.

5) For the love of GOD, next time use protection.

Answer 2

what exactly are you asking?
Yes, get married. It sounds like you all are probably ready for that.
Your kids are not driving the bus, you are the adult, and if you are having another child, you are having one. They get a sibing no matter what they say. End of discussion there.They are kids and they will love their brother or sister no matter what when he or she gets there.
After 3 children you should know how those babies are being made. If you did not want to get pregnant at this time, then some preventative measures would have been prudent. Birth control has been around since WWII, so there is no excuse.
Are you saying that you do not want this baby if it is a girl?
And your mom would be upset to have another granddaughter??That has got to be one of the saddest things that I think I have ever heard!
My friend just had a stillborn baby girl. A baby that she has tried three times for now, and has lost at different times during her pregnancy. If you do not think that this child is the miracle and the blessing that he or she is, then please look into options such as giving her up for adoption. Someone who is not as fertile or lucky as you all are is aching for a child to love.
I hope that you are just feeling tired and overwhelmed and just need some support. If that is the case, then please know that God will not give you more than you can bear. In a few weeks when your body adjusts to being pregnant and you can think clearly, you will be able to start figuring out how this new bundle will fit into your life. Good luck with all of this- dd

Answer 3

This is a joke question, right??? Just like lots of them on this site.... no one has 4 kids anymore.... why would you want to.... bc pills are so dependable.....

Bring this into prospective? Genetically, every pregnancy has a 50-50 chance of being of either sex. However, some men produce only girls, as do some critters. In fact, in the Arabian horse business, stallion owners will adverize "No Filly, no fee" meaning that over the years, their stallion is so dependable that they can still make a pile of cash with a full book of 40 mares for the season: if the sire produced a male colt, the $5000 fee will be returned. Heavily shown stallions come with big debts, so the people who own them wouldn't be willing to loose even 15% of that sum..... We all know people who have three girls, and try for a 4th, and it too is a girl. So tho the theory is 50/50, in actuality, if someone were a betting person, I'd be betting a ton that your next child would also be a female..... Is that what you wanted to know?

Answer 4

I also have 4 children and am married.. but when I found out I was pregnant with my 4th I cried for DAYS... Very upset because I was done having kids after my third was born... But you know what.. I had my last daughter and when she was born I cried almost everytime I looked at her for a week... Not because I was sad I had her, but because I had even thought for a minute that I wouldn't want to see her perfect little face everyday... She is the most vibrant, commical, loving little girl ever (she is now almost 2).... When you have 3 kids already the 4th isn't any more... after so many you just have to count to make sure you have them all in the car when you go someplace. You will have this baby and when you see and hold him/her you and your other kids will love her all the same.... If you ever feel like it is too much some times and just need a complete strangers opinion feel free to email me. Sometimes you just need a non biased person to vent to and as a mother of 4 I know how even a little vent can save your sanity!!!

Answer 5

Having a baby is wonderful - and it's not up to anyone but you and your fiance to decide about your family. So what if your kids don't want another sibling. You chose this path - and now another person is going to be welcomed into this world. Perhaps your children have a bad attitude toward this pregnancy because of what you are saying or your fiance says - most of the time children are very happy to have a sibling. You really should get married as soon as possible - a simple ceremony. Set a good example for your girls. Do you want them doing what you are doing?
Mom's will always have opinions - but it's really not her business. It's between you and your fiance. Be happy - you are adding to your precious family...and so what if it's another girl - don't you just want a healthy baby?

Answer 6

If you are asking should you have an abortion then I would say no. You have three beautiful daughters what if you would have aborted one of them. You obviously know what causes pregnancy get some birth control or have him get a vasectomy. You got pregnant with this one now you have to deal with it. The fact that you are scared it might be a girl is childish and immuture. It is a baby who cares what sex it is? What would your mom not be happy with? Another child or an abortion. The kids don't want another one because they are kids and it will take away from their time with you. Make them understand that they will love this baby just as much as their other sisters.

Answer 7

Is the question should I have another child, or is it If I have another child it had better be a boy? Do you think that it is fair to the child you are carrying to decide to keep it or not based upon which sex it is? I know that having more children is a big ordeal, my wife and I have 3 (actually 4 but 1 died in 2001), but using this thing about if its a boy or girl shouldn't be a factor in having the baby. Be concerned that the baby is healthy regardless of what it is. Your the one who has to decide what to do, but remember your decision affects more than you, it will affect those near and around you.

Answer 8

you love your three children, right? how would you feel if you got rid of the 4th, imagine not having any of the girls you have now? how would you explain an abortion to your girls or adoption, then the child comes back wondering why you kept the three and not her? why are you depending on a 2, 4 and year old for advise, they're babies, trust me they will be thanking God that they have each other later. you don't have to answer to your family about how many children you want, so don't worry about that. tell you boyfriend (who should now be your husband) that if it's a girl will he not love het? make yourself a family, get married and keep your child, have your business (if possible) and you will feel better.

Answer 9

if you are already thinking and questioning this pregnancy. I can seriously tell you that you need to get on birth control. Women who have 4 children and not in a committed relationship (married) are crazy. I also think you are crazy to even consider whether or not a 2, 4, and 6 yr old want a sibling. I have 4 sisters and 2 brothers and I am sure my parents didnt leave the decision up to my brothers and sisters whether they should have me. That is just stupidity.

Answer 10

If you don't want another child - why not use birth control? There are so many choices nowadays, it's irresponsible not to. The perspective is - see your doctor and find a method that works for you. Popping a kid every two years is no way to live. Right now, if you don't want to have the 4th child, abortion would be the only option.