2006-12-04 04:29:14 · 29 answers · asked by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this other guy I like, he never told me he was married, and he's the one pursuing me, I found out he's married w/ 2 children, through a friend.
2006-12-04 04:48:08 · update #1
leave as is. no one has to know. none of your friends or family or the person you have a crush on. keep this to only yourself. why? because your going to hurt a lot of people and is that wroth it? the man you have a crush on may not have one on you. and if think "oh he talks to me he flirts with me etc... that don't mean he will act on it. remember that. soon or later that crush will go away.
2006-12-04 04:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should try and focus on the person you are married to. your marriage represents the bond between you and him. its very sacred and can easily be broken. if your liking this other guy then you should tell your husband. tell him that you dont want to divorce but there are some side feelings i am having for someone else. forget what they say when they said what you dont know wont hurt you. wrong in my opinion. if was married and my husband was liking another guy who is married then i would feel hurt when i find out. its better to come clean so that your conscience wont bother you and keep you awake every night. look at it this way. so you dont get to caught up. spend more time with your husband to remind you why you married him. was it his way of catching your heart at that right moment? could be. just keep reminding yourself why you married him and why you love him so much. then that should make the feelings for the other guy a little less. good luck.
2006-12-04 12:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by shanice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as a crush when you are married. It's called an outside man/woman that can become a lover. THis term is only used when you're in high school by girls beginning to date and doens not apply to married couples. When a person is married and one is attracted to another that isn't the wife/husband it's not a crush- it's the "man/woman next door..".
2006-12-04 12:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You act like an adult and crush the crush.What you are doing is playing with peoples lives and although it may seem harmless now if you feed into the emotions they will grow into a beast that you will not be able to control,so many people will get hurt and you will forever feel sorry. Be a grown up and be responsible for the lives of your family and respect that other woman's family as well.
2006-12-04 12:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, it is just a crush. What about the other person? Does that other person also have a crush on you or not. If this is going only one way, l suggest to forget about it, as if you carry on, and let that other person know, you might end up getting hurt and you will hurt your spouse as well. If you don't love your spouse any longer, maybe you should start thinking about getting a divorce, before you both end up unhappy.
Good luck to you
2006-12-04 12:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married with a crush on another married person. Where are your morals? I dont mean to be rude at all but you are married and you should not be having interest in another man. Leave it at just that a crush and get over it, crushes are for children.
2006-12-04 12:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Think of ten things that you love about your husband. Then do something really great for him and reap the rewards. Most importantly forget the other guy. You will only make it bad for four people if you follow your crush, and what is a crush anyway? Come on. You aren't sixteen, you made a commitment, stick to it.
2006-12-04 12:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by serisa2009 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you have to see this person you have the crush on often and it can't be helped, then use your feelings for this *crush* to benefit your husband. Do to your husband what your imagining you would like to do to your crush. Your husband will reap the rewards and you will find out again just how much and why you love him. It will bring you and your husband closer together and hopefully help to squash the feelings you have for the other guy. Good luck.
2006-12-04 12:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by F.A.Q. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be alone with your crush, that's number 1. And please, forget you even have a crush! Remember the man/woman you married. You should never jeopardize that for anything or anyone. It's not worth losing everything for a moment of sex.
2006-12-04 12:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stay away from that person and don't act on the crush. If you are married, you are obligated to work to save your marriage and not go looking around.
2006-12-04 12:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋