(but never leaves) I'm asking this for a friend, but I'm curious, too! This has been going on for a few years now - why the empty threats?
2006-12-04 03:55:59 · 16 answers · asked by shellbugger 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
OH BOY THIS ONE I KNOW I TOLD MY HUSBAND OVER AND OVER THAT IF HE DIDNT CHANGE I WAS GOING TO LEAVE HIM , OK I STAYED FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME BECAUSE IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU TRY TO STAY IN THERE THINKING TODAY HE WILL CHANGE KNOWING HE IS GOING TO LOOSE WHAT HE HAS AND YOU WAUT AND WAIT AND ONE DAY IT HITS HE IS NEVER GOING TO DO THIS FOR YOU SO YOU TAKE YOUR HEART IN YOUR HANDS AND SAY TO YOUR SELF SELF DO I WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE GOING THROUGH THIS HE MUST NOT CARE SO YOU GET YOUR THINGS AND WHAT EVER AND YOU GET OUT OF THIS AND THEN THE PERSON IS STANDING THERE WITH OPEN MOUTH IN NOT BELEAVING IN WHAT HE IS SEEING AND YOU LEAVE THEM STANDING THERE IN THE DOOR WAY LOOKING LOST , BUT FOR THE FIRST TIME YOU ARE NOT LOST . YOU HAVE FOUND YOURSELF AND IT IS WONDERFUL.
2006-12-04 04:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by janice a 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Empty threats are used to keep the authority in a relationship. If you aren't willing to change then don't. Do you really want to be in an overpowering relationship that is filled with threats. it doesn't sound to healthy to me. Get out!
2006-12-04 12:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Hofstadter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person being threatened isn't exhibiting any self-destructive behaviors, then the person doing the threatening could just be a control freak, in a reverse psychology kind of way.
If it is simply a matter of the person being threatened not willing to change some annoying behaviors and not wanting to compromise, then they aren't ready to be in a relationship anyway.
Either scenario screams "LEAVE", regardless. It isn't healthy for either person, IMHO.
2006-12-04 12:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it means you're exhibiting some sort of behavior that makes it difficult for someone to stick around. This could be anything though, especially if the person is a jerk. I'd just simply ask what they want you to change. If it's something that it honestly a bad habit or something that will eventually deter your health, then the SO has good intentions. But if its something stupid, then forget about him.
2006-12-04 12:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by elise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess he is in love...he doesn't want to leave you...but some things bother him...but know you know and you know that those are empty threats...
Instead...tell him not to act childish...but talk t oeach other about every issue. No pressure needed. Don't you think :)
have fun.
2006-12-04 12:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means when something better comes along or the person is totally fed up ---- they will leave.
Consider the "if you don't change speech" a warning. The person informing their significant other of their unhappiness. When the time is right - the unhappy party will bid good bye.
2006-12-04 12:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your significant other lacks gratitude. Your spouse needs to appreciate you for who you are. You can never find happiness without gratitude. Changing your persepective on your lover can change who you are. Appreciate the little things in life and teach your lover to do the same. If you truly love someone you will stay with them in spite of who they are. This type of love is known as AGAPE in greek.
2006-12-04 12:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who sticks around is a martyr and the person who won't change is a user. Sounds like a perfect couple.
2006-12-04 12:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you need to tell him to go. He's testing your tolerance of him - trying to make sure you don't leave him.. Kick him out. Tell him you won't change - this is it!
He's making both of you uncertain and unhappy - just move on.
2006-12-04 12:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by gabluesmanxlt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you stay with someone who is threating to leave you if you don't adhere to their standards? Screw that. Take your stuff (and his) and get out of there. Find someone who will love you because of you.
2006-12-04 12:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by BloodCountess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋