for example...
you love a girl..you propose..try to win her love..then marry...(TAKE)
you love a girl..she does not love you...so you suffer..but let her happy with another guy...when that guy dies..you marry and protect her..you sacrifice (GIVE)...how?
2006-12-04 03:35:57 · 17 answers · asked by David A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should never sacrifice your own happiness for someone else. No matter how much you love them you will just grow to resent them if they don't love you back.... Momma always says you should be with someone who love you as much as they love you! And never take second best!
Sometimes LOVE is not ENOUGH
2006-12-04 03:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when people say "Are you happily married" I usually answer. "She's happy, I am married".
Back to your question. Love is about give and take, but the giving and the taking comes from both sides. If you are giving and she is taking all the time then there is a problem. Ever heard the term 50/50 that is a balance and this is a very important part of love. As a mature couple you learn to understand this over time. In the beginning it is always difficult, but eventually if you both love each other you will make sacrifices and balance out your love.
2006-12-04 03:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice I ever got:
People think that marriage is a 50/50 kind of thing. But truly successful marriages come when both parties understand that this kind of perfect balance rarely happens and can sometimes be more like 70/30, 90/10 or 100/0. You have to be willing to be there for your partner when they can't give as much as they need from you. But you should be with someone who is willing to do the same. THAT, my friends, is true love. When you don't bail just because things aren't "perfect". Happiness is a blessing, not an inherent right. I think if more people understood that, we'd have a much lower divorce rate in this country!
2006-12-04 03:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your examples don't make all that much sense to me.
I personally think it's a bit of both. There's always give and take and if you can find a balanced medium between the two I think you have a good thing.
Example: Guy buys movie tickets (Give) Girl buys the popcorn (give) <-- a balanced give situation
Boy and girl love eachother. Boy and girl have sex. Both are taking pleasure from eachother, while giving pleasure at the same time - now THAT is a nice balance ;)
2006-12-04 03:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you win love before you propose babe. True love is everything. Give, take, happiness, pain. The ups and downs of humanity.
2006-12-04 03:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is taking crap sometimes when you don't want to. And giving love, forgiveness, and compassion. True love is taking a bad situation and making the best of it, supporting each other through hard times and financial crisis. Giving the best of yourself and getting the same back.
2006-12-04 03:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your examples don't even make sense.
Love is always about giving.
You give someone love, its unconditional. Marrying someone isn't taking anything from them, its giving them your promise to be with them and stick by them through thick and thin. When you give someone your love, its an offer with absolutely no expectations of anything in return. Thats true love.
2006-12-04 03:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in a relationship on both sides there should an equal amount of giving. I find that giving is the most important and only by giving can you actually take something.
2006-12-04 03:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular. i'm changing lots approximately my existence. i do no longer do it for him, i'm doing it for US for romance. i'm in no way happier than while i'm in his hands. it particularly is there i discover my freedom, my risk-free practices, my peace. this is the reason i'm leaving my relatives and all my acquaintances. i'm flying very very nearly 3000 miles Thursday to an entire new place. and not employing a job yet and little funds. by way of fact i p.c. too. Love has asked it of me and who am I to refuse a rigidity such as Love? "I hear the leather-based on his voice, it particularly is a calling no longer a decision. and that i won't have the ability to maintain myself from following the sound. Yeah you would be able to in no way understand, how speedily which you will bypass. Til somebody lifts your ft up off the floor." -Sugarland
2016-10-13 23:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i can say love is the most important thing in a marriage and if you are not being loved back then you need to leave her a lone .....i don't care if you love the person more then life it's self it isn't worth not being loved back because then you end up never finding the right person for you and she can't find the one for her so to me you never Marie when it is a one sided thing.........i do understand you love her but love her by being her friend and nothing else so you don't end up getting hurt more then it has all ready.........
2006-12-04 03:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋