I am on disability and don't have much money coming in. How do I buy christmas presents, food and oil for kids

Question

I don't get much money at all in a month. My children mean the world to me and I feel that i am letting them down. I just run out of oil, and don'tknow what to do about that either? Someone please help me. I will go without eating before my children ever will, which isn't a big deal, but I just don't know what to do anymore

Answer 1

Talk to your local church. They should be able to help you get through this time. Otherwise, what's the point of churches than to gather the community and take their money in the name of the Lord?

Answer 2

With only 21 days left, your main focus should be food and oil. Keep in mind that the most meaningful gifts are those that come from the heart. Assuming you have friends, neighbors, church members or other circles of acquaintances, offer to Christmas shop for them online for a reasonable fee. Enlist your spouse and (if old enough) your children to produce a flier (large print, simple message, name and phone #), post them around town on doors and shops and spread the message through their friends. ("Hey, my dad/mom has a new business. Tell your folks he/she can shop on line for them to help them Christmas shop"). You can even gift wrap for a fee.

There are actually countless ways for you to earn a few more dollars before Christmas. You can find almost any kind of gift on e-bay or Amazon at very, very low prices. Just make sure the person has a high rating earned by numerous successful transactions. Or, go to the dollar store and let your imagination run wild. (Buy a cute little box fo your daughter and put a note in it that you will clean up her room for her one weekend, that she doesn't have to do the dishes for a week, or that she can pick an evening that's just for the two of you. Make her favorite dish, buy her favoriate candy in a large size, and sit down for a movie together or just go for a walk. - Buy a wiffle ball set, yes for a dollar) and attach a note saying that you'll go out with him on the first warm day a through a few balls, or buy a frizbee and make the same offer. Buy a Bible and/or Christmas bood, yes for a dollar and spend Christmas day reading to them and telling them stories from your child hood. Buy a candle and light it - as a tradition that the candle will represent your families special time together each Christmas. Most of all, talk about the true meaning or Christmas and teach them that it's about Giving, not just receiving. Teach them how they can be happy without getting the hundred dollar gifts that commercialism teaches will make them happy. Teach them how they can give something to someone else. Focus on someone, some family who has even less than yours. (many families won't have a home to heat).

I have represented many "disabled" clients in bankruptcy. Many under 35 years old. They received a disability check and convinced themselves that they were "disabled. Yet they were able to get out into the malls create credit card debt. They were able to look through a phone book and find me, make a phone call to schedule an appointment, navigate their way downtown, find a parking space, make their way to my 20th floor office, fill out an extensive questionnaire, gather numerous documents need to file bankruptcy and then do the same when it came time to attend the bankrutpcy hearing. Where is the disability. Anyone capable of walking through a mall, make purchases, use credit cards, drive, read, write, understand and complete a questionnaire, get on an escalator or elevator, answer questions, make phone calls and use a phone book, is capable of earning money is some manner. Focus on your numerous abilities not what someone has told you is a disability.

Your (dis)ability to earn money is determined by your thinking. Change how you think and you'll change how you live. Christmas comes around every year on December 25th. Now is the time to plan for a better Christmas next year as well as the one that is now 21 days ahead. Since you have access to the web and the ability to post this question, you have the world at your finger tips. Use it wisely and have a very wonderful and blessed Christmas.

Answer 3

First of all my heart goes out to you. Being a mom I know what you mean, but listen, we have a responsibility to teach our kids the real meaning of Christmas....You are not letting them down just because you can not go buy them big fancy gifts....Gifts are to be given from the heart...The wisemen and shepherds brought baby Jesus gifts that were meaningful...I don't think they cost a whole lot of money.

Do you have any talents that you can make a nice gift for your children? I would also suggest cooking a nice meal, make cookies together as a family and be honest with your children. Just tell them the truth. Tell them you can not afford to give them much financially right now, but whatever you give them, you give them from the heart.

There are also lots of Programs, toys for tots etc, that help to provide gifts for children who may not otherwise get any....if you need help locating a charity like this, then feel free to e-mail me and I will help you find a charity organization that may help you. God Bless you!

Answer 4

It has been over a year and i still don't have disability payments. Try your church, Salvation Army, Toys for Tots. I actually get $150 a month in food stamps, surely you can get some help with food at least.

Answer 5

Cut it down to the basics and try to get something that all the kids can share for X-mas.

Next month open a savings account and prepare for X-mas! You knew this was coming 12 months ago, just like when your kids birthdays arrive you knew they would be coming 12 or so months ago.

Bottom Line: Prepare yourself

Answer 6

talk to yur church about this maybe they can help you with your food problem. also maybe if you live in a nice community the church will be able to get the community together to buy gifts for christmas for your children.

Answer 7

You need to contact social services in your community and ask for help. There are federal and state programs designed for good people, like you, in bad situations. You will find help if you reach out. Good luck.