1. Self-sacrifice
This is the willingness to help you even though it might be a burden, pain, or risk for themselves. You may do everything to help her out, but if and when you need help, would he/she give you back the same level of help that you extended to he/her? If the answer is “no,” then be careful.
2. Genuine time-sharing
This is an important test of the true synergy in a friendship. Ask yourself, when you spend time together, are you spending time just to enjoy each other’s company and companionship in connected synergy with no other strings attached? …or do you find that you only spend time together when your “friend” needs help or something from you?
If the answer is the latter, then be careful—this is a sign of a manipulator.
3. Honesty
This again is another big one on the list because it signifies the level of interpersonal connectedness of the relationship.
A true friend will tell you personal things, with complete trust that you will not use it against them later on. Also a true friend will not keep information from you even though it is something that you might not want to hear or that might hurt you, if they felt it was the right thing to do.
When you tell someone that they hurt you and they defend or start making excuses or deny that they hurt you. That is someone that only has self motivation and not a true friend.
4. Interest
How interested is the other person about your life? If you are doing something important, do they call and follow up with you? If they don’t seem interested about you or your life at all, then be careful.
The deeper the friendship, the better the questions they will ask of you. Real friends will want to know how you are emotionally and physically, how you are doing professionally, how your heart is doing, and they seem to dig a little deeper than the superficial “elevator talk” that usually just consists of how your day is going and what’s new.
5. Integrity
This is the ability to keep your word and do as you say you will. I’ve noticed that with fake friends, their integrity level is not so high. If they say they will call you tomorrow and don’t, then that is a lack of integrity. If they say they will do something and either forget or use the more infamous “I’m too busy today,” line then they lack integrity.
On the note of “busy,” in my time management courses, I tell people that so much can be done on any given day and it just comes down to proper planning and knowing you’re your priorities are. When I hear someone tell me that they are too busy or that they forgot to call, then I what I really hear instead, is that I am not as important as other things in their life right now, so that is a red-flag to me that they are not a true friend because their level of integrity is poor.
>>>If you find out that they are talking about you behind your back and you confront them and it is of no big deal. They never were your friend.<<<
Hold people accountable for their words because when it boils down to trust—your word is your bond.
2006-12-04 03:35:25
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answered by Shawna 2
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no wonder you're not happy with your existing friends, how long more, are you going to be happy with your new friend? that is if you find one?
2006-12-04 11:42:52
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answered by Dreamweaver 5
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