my best guy friend, he is married, been with his wife for 2 yrs...well his wife is very close with a coworker and it caused problems in their marriage...she still talks with this person even though they dont work together, exchanging text messages...my friend told her that she shouldnt talk to the friend anymore and she refuses...is my friend right or too worried?
2006-12-04 03:16:42 · 23 answers · asked by sd_andrea86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What you have described is an inappropriate relationship. Even if it is not physical, it IS cheating. When married people have any relations that they hide from their partners, or cannot happen in front of their partners, and relations that EXCLUDE their partners, it IS cheating.
It lacks integrity and is disloyal to their spouse. It will cause problems in the marriage. And your best guy friend who is married is doing exactly that. You need to re-evaluate your friendship with him. I am not saying don't be friends, but include his wife. His wife is his chosen life partner, and both of you need to respect that.
Your friend has a right to be worried, and he probably feels guilty himself about his friendship with you. In fact, his guilt is probably the reason he is worried about his wife.
Sorry to be so blunt, but you should take a step back from your friendship with him. Try ti include his wife from now on. Call her once in a while, and act like you respect her marriage to him. She will probably get the message and re-evaluate her friendship with her coworker.
2006-12-04 03:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs to be very worried! Her marriage should be more important than a "Friend" at work or not.
It's time for him to ask what this dude is giving her he's not. If she won't, suggest counseling. If she keeps on with the behavior, it's time for playboy to think about what the relationship means to both of them. If he's not feeling equality, there's some things he needs to settle up on in his own mind.
I can only hope they don't have children yet. Children in this type of marriage are a big obstacle to doing what may need to be done.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 12:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your guy friends wife is being selfish and does really not want to be married. If she really wanted to save her marriage she would cut off any communication with her problem friend, it really sounds like she is wanting the both of the best worlds, a friend with benefits and a husband. I'm sorry your guy friend is going through this, but at least he has a friend like you that cares.
2006-12-04 11:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife has a guy friend that she talk to almost ever night in chat rooms and text her by phone and even call ever once and a while in the begininig it was hard but they have a friend ship that is like bother and sister and he is in anorther county and is almost 10 year younger then her. the only thing you need to worry is if she get emotionally attached to this person more then the hubby then there can be problems.. good luck
2006-12-04 11:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the husband need to spend some quality time with his wife so she won't be bored having to send Texts all the time. When she starts showing up at home late and starts pulling away then its too late. Once someone else catchs her attention, its hard to get that LOVE back if indeed its another male shes texting?
2006-12-04 11:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's caused a problem in the past, it will again down the road. Can't be part of alcoholics anonymous and frequent the bars and ask why I'm still having problems... If she really cares about the relationship, should be doing everything she can to strengthen it. Best of luck to your friend.
2006-12-04 11:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by dadknows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don´t know if he´s right or too worried, but certainly it is true that he doesn´t like his wife keep in touch with her friend. She has to respect that and she´d better move away from her friend
2006-12-04 11:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce W. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one, because it is wrong to tell someone who they can talk too, however I have seen a lot of relationship end over a jealous partner. Maybe she needs to prioritize what is most important in her life, husband or friend.
2006-12-04 11:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know something really bothers or hurts your spouse you shouldn't do it. It's called compromise and is fundamental in a strong marriage. She should respect her husband's feelings if she really cares for him. If she cares more for her friend than her husband, something is definitely wrong here.
2006-12-04 11:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said if the co worker was male or female. He is right to be worried, sounds like she's having an affair.
2006-12-04 11:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋