my husband has had his 2 cats for 10 yrs...i feel that they are his pets and he should care for them....he insists that they are "our" pets and that i should take care of them......if i had a choice of having the cats or not having them-i would prefer not to have them...(of course i don't want my husband to get rid of his cats!! and i'm not an animal hater...)
2006-12-04 03:09:12 · 15 answers · asked by SNAP! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
alot of people seem to think that marriage makes me responsible for the cats, and that they are now mine.........what if we were to divorce?? what happens to the cats then?? if you say he gets then, then they were never mine in the first place were they??
2006-12-04 03:48:18 · update #1
If he's had the cats for ten years then it sounds like he's had them longer than you've been together. I would be happy that he's emotionally open enough to "share" his pets with you. Some people get really weird about that. Since you married him knowing that he has these animals, then I would say take part in taking care of them. You can set rules, though - like you can agree to play with them and check their food and water but not change the litter, etc.
2006-12-04 03:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't really want to do it and he doesn't really want to do it. I would suggest one of those self cleaning litter boxes, self feeders and waters (this way you only have to do it weekly) Or I would suggest you guys find a loving home for the cats there is nothing wrong giving the cats to a home that really want them. This does not make you an animal hater.. lol.. But if you both don't have the time nor the real want to care for them then maybe its in there best interest.
But you are not wrong, They where his cats he should be the one taking care of them with you helping out if he needed some help. Which I am sure you would do if he needed it.
Good Luck to you.
Just to add.. People just because she married a man with cats, Maybe she had no clue that when she said I do, meant, I will also take care of your cats. Maybe she figured he was taking care of them before and would continue to take care of them.
They are passing laws now about who gets animals in divorces.. it states who ever bought them. Even if they are bought as a gift.. So your husband would get his cats.. I agree with ya hun. The people who say you married him with his cats should each offer up to come to your house and clean the litter box for you!! lol
2006-12-04 03:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know this never works.. My wife brought home 2 cats and I said they are yours, you take care of them, but if she forgets or is too busy-I end up helping out and just doing it. That's the way it works. If they are definately his, then it should be his main responisiblity, but you can offer to help out when those unexpected times pop up.
2006-12-04 03:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by dadknows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They came with him, part of the package. If he'd come with two kids you'd wind up taking care of them too. It's joint custody and part of the relationship. If you don't want to care for others' pets, date guys who don't have animals. That's why I stay away from men who have children: I don't want any kids, nor do I want to care for someone else's.
2006-12-04 03:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and son did the same thing to me. I work nights, sleep days. When I woke up one day, POOF! we had two cats in the house! Guess who takes care of them? I'm with you, they are his cats and he should take care of them.
2006-12-04 03:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Steve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you this but he is right they are your cats too.but he too should be taking care of them.come up with some kind of a compromise, so that you have equal responsibility regarding the cats.
2006-12-04 03:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think their his animals let him take care of his own. I have a poodle,I care for. My girls have their animals they care for. And my husband doesn't like animals,he's not mean to ours but none of them are "his" pets. He will feed and water them if we ask him too, but we are the main caretakers.
2006-12-04 04:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of 2 girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your car breaks down and he tells you that its your car and you should take care of it. I'm sure given a choice he would prefer not to have to deal with your insurance bill.
2006-12-04 03:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both should take care of them; they became part of the family when you married. though you may just think of them as cats, he may see them as his babies. why not help him? cats really are not that difficult to take care of!
2006-12-04 03:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for ya, Im in the same boat with my wifes dog. I have no good answer, but I understand.
2006-12-04 03:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋