I just recently moved to Northern VA - my parents just bought a house here. My question though is more career related: I work in property mgmt. and am getting the opportunity to move to the next level if I stay in VA, but my title can't move up until March, but my pay and responsibilites are getting better. Now, my boyfriend lives in San Jose and I found an opportunity with the company to move there - the pay will be about the same, but I won't be on a "higher" level - I will be doing what I do now. I'm also concerned about making my bf move to the DC area bc he has a lot of great opportunities in CA, but he won't have that many opps. in the DC area. Also my family and friends are here. I'm just not sure which option to go with: move up in DC or relocate to CA and make just as much money, just not have the title. I would be able to get the title by May in CA so I'd be pushing my career a few months back; is it worth it? My company and my bf are letting me decide between CA and VA!
2006-12-04 03:05:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anjali C 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Wow, what a decision.... I can relate.... I had a VERY successful career in Washington DC. There were fabulous opportunities there but I HATED the lifestyle....driving in that traffic made me CRAZY!!!! My BF at the time couldn't stand it there and he moved.....We made the long distance relationship work for a long while....there were some other things in between but making a long story short....I'm married now, with an 8 month old son, I gave up a title of "director" and went back to a middle level position... I am ok with that decision and find that I am really very happy, This is a decision that only you can make....go with your heart, but if your BF is not part of a long term plan, don't go out on a limb....It sounds like you have a great life in DC, family, friends and career.... You both need to do some serious soul searching....but my husband did offer me a great piece of advice one time.... When in doubt, do nothing.... Who says either of you has to do anything right now....wait a little longer....and see how things go....Step back for a while.....perhaps time will make the answers a little clearer. Good Luck to you.
2006-12-04 03:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one - remember what the cost of living will be like. I can tell you that - if you're not making six figures when you go out to CA, it's not worth it.
Number two - has he proposed? If not, then you may get out there and find that he's no longer interested - maybe it'll take a few months for this to happen - just enough time for you to become miserable and miss home.
I suggest staying in VA, taking the title, and posing the question of him moving to DC. If he really wants to be with you, he'll move.
Don't take the chance of possibly ruining your life and future to appease him.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 11:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by gatesfam@swbell.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in the DC area (MD) and I like CA better! So if you want a more beautiful, laid back area, I say go to CA! BUT...it's really up to you!
2006-12-04 11:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by friendlygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like earthquakes, wild fires, tsunamis, mud slides, and constant traffice jams? Then go.
2006-12-04 11:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by timbo44b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋