Not to long ago after I dispute my girl and I had she went behind my back and went out with another guy and was sendin him sexy emails and things of that nature. I found out and gave her a pice of my mind. After 2 weeks she says she learned her lesson? But did she? At this point my trust for her a fell...i guess i was bein nieve but my trust for her was 150% and also it was the fact im in school about to graduate in a week and shes out with another guy flirtin who she said he was just a friend..well you dont send a FRIEND a sexy email. I dont trust her all like that anymore? But lately she has been tryin to get back with me...I do see her attempts, she is tryin but i am still unsure and taken back by what happened among other things WITHIN our relationship that a could and coulda dealt with but now since she got caught doin somethin she shouldnt of been doin, im just not sure...please give me your detailed insight
2006-12-04 03:04:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, i do not think another chance will change the fact you don,t trust her. a leopard cannot change its spots. once a dog always a dog. and if you lay down with a dog you will get fleas!!
2006-12-04 03:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by bextersmom97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how long you were with this girl.
If your relationship is serious and you have been seeing each other exclusively for some time, then I'd be mad too.
Once you lose trust in someone you will never get it back. I got out of a 7 year relationship because I never trusted the guy. He cheated on me when we first started dating. I thought I dealt with it and could trust him, but I never did. It eats away at you and you will never be happy with her, even if you think that you can get over it.
Many people go to counseling for it, I didn't bother because there were other factors that I wasn't happy about the I knew wouldn't change without rehab.
The question you have to ask yourself is......Can I forgive AND FORGET????
2006-12-04 11:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is broken. It won't be regained. You're always gonna have doubts now. Best to move on.
A break up is one thing. Then you're not together and my answer would have to be different. But people have arguments. If she's unfaithful, even in mind, just because of a stupid tiff, then the next time she's unhappy it may be more than just an email to the friend.
She may generally feel sorry now. But doesn't mean it won't happen again. She'll just be more careful to avoid getting caught.
2006-12-04 11:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you shouldn't trust her. As the saying goes "Once a Cheat Always a Cheat"!!! She is only sorry because she got CAUGHT!! Without trust you, you can't make a relationship work....So do yourself a favor & get rid of her now....
And find someone that will be able & want to give you a 150% back!!!
2006-12-04 11:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by ahg30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. Take a break from her for awhile. After a month or so if you feel the same way then let her go. A relationship is built on trust and right now you don't trust her.
2006-12-04 11:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 've given second chances-twice ti the same person! and sorry to say it just opens the door to more cheating. She really wanted me back and swore off the other dude, but eventualy she cheated with the same guy again. I thought alot about it over the years and I think its that she knew she would have a chance to get me back again that she did it. The third time I let her go , and she's alone now!
2006-12-04 11:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality is that if you do not, or can not, trust her then YOU are not yet ready for a special relationship with her.
If you keep giving people a piece of your mind, you will end up with very little left!
Just wait awhile
2006-12-04 11:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is got you where she wants,do you need somebody to tell you what is good for you?Why should you go out with a girl who has no self respect let alone respect for you?She is got the best of both worlds.Not long you will be raising another man's child
2006-12-04 11:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by TheMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should, because everyone deserves a second chance and all it was was an email and after all of that sexy talk in the end she realizes that it was you who made her world go around! and she didn't realize it til you were gone now she is striving for a second chance and if she is important in your life than there is a second chance no doubt about it.
2006-12-04 11:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Phat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should take her back,because she just might do it again. She'll think that you tolk her back after furting with your friend she'll think she can do it again and get away with it. Trust me my bf did the same thing and I tolk him back and he did it again. Theres someone out there that will treat you much better then she did. It might be hard for you to let her go,but be live me it will be much header if you take her back and she turns around and does the same thing to you. You need someone to LOVE you not hurt you and threes someone out their for you.
2006-12-04 11:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by amber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋