Should I give her another chance????

Question

Not to long ago after I dispute my girl and I had she went behind my back and went out with another guy and was sendin him sexy emails and things of that nature. I found out and gave her a pice of my mind. After 2 weeks she says she learned her lesson? But did she? At this point my trust for her a fell...i guess i was bein nieve but my trust for her was 150% and also it was the fact im in school about to graduate in a week and shes out with another guy flirtin who she said he was just a friend..well you dont send a FRIEND a sexy email. I dont trust her all like that anymore? But lately she has been tryin to get back with me...I do see her attempts, she is tryin but i am still unsure and taken back by what happened among other things WITHIN our relationship that a could and coulda dealt with but now since she got caught doin somethin she shouldnt of been doin, im just not sure...please give me your detailed insight

Answer 1

She is not worth your time. Cheating is an integrity issue, not a desire or an attraction issue. She has little to no integrity and you could be doing better things with your time.

Answer 2

I have sent very sexy emails to friends and they have been just friends. In fact, we have a whole chat room like that and I am a very monogomous person in a very loving and dedicated relationship. I can speak from experience. My ex got married without me and I stayed with him for a time afterwards, trusting that he would get a divorce since he was semidrunk at the wedding. I gave him several chances and he blew it. I would say give her the benefit of the doubt but if she does continue to break it then walk away without a backwards glance.

You're very vague about the things that happened within the relationship so I'm not sure what to tell you as far as what is concerned about those things. It's hard to give an accurate response or answer when some of the details are missing. My best advice though is what I stated earlier, give her a chance but if she breaks your trust again, then be done with it with no second glance backwards.

Answer 3

if everytime we have a fight with our love, and they run out and cheat on us, what kind of future will that make for us? the trust u lost can never be regained, not ever. u can forgive her, but forgetting it u won't. when we pick a mate, we look at what they do under pressure, cause how pressure is handled can tell u alot about a person's character. if in my life i had known or followed some of these things i know now, maybe i would have chosen more wisely. are they relaible? can u count on them to be there even if there is a dispute, or will they walk out on u when u need them the most. u see what is true here, no u don't send just a friend a sexy e mail, the intention with that is there is more going on, plus she is denying the whole thing, and insulting your intelligence. she needs to come clean, and admit it, before u will be able to move past it and begin to trust again.

Answer 4

Once you lost trust, you have lost everything.

It is a question of whether you can get past the email, and whether you are going to have continuing doubts. If you can't get past it, and if you are going to have doubts as to whether there was more than just an email, my advise is that you get out.

The problem is your girlfriend had no business sending a sexy email. There is absolutely no excuse. What was she thinking, and WHY was she thinking that? This is so typical. Things start out with flirtation, that escalate to more sexually explicit communications, and finally acting out in real life. Your girlfriend was at the second stage, and the only reason she is sorry is because she got caught. If she hadn't gotten caught, she would have eventually acted out in real life.

The other question is how much time do you have invested in this relationship? If not that much time. Get out now.

Since you are not married, than my advice is that you get out. It is tough, I know, but you can do better.

Answer 5

Well by what you said, she has cheated on you twice. She is not ready to settle down, remember she is still young. So may be it will be best for you to find you a friend, who will be content with just you. Tell her that you and her can just be friends, that she is not ready for a committed relationship. You want someone in your life that you can trust, and who will only want you, now don't go and sell your self short, because you miss her, and feel sorry for her, because she will do it to you, over and over again! go out and start to have some fun! Take your time in finding someone, so you can get to know them!

Answer 6

K ya'll NO & NAHS are both wrong! People make mistakes, thats where you learn from them. Give her a chance! Start off slow & then you will build the trust again.

Answer 7

Once a cheater..always a cheater. You are too good for that. You are about to graduate, Make A New Start.

Answer 8

Move on and find yourself a trustworthy girl. As my father used to continually say to me "There's more fish in the sea". I thought he was bullshitting me, but it turns out he was right all along.

Answer 9

i have this feeling that this is something that you will not get over any time soon.so, i suggest that you leave well enough alone and not get back with her.if she can go and do this over a fight that you had then the next time you fight with her she may do it again.if you are not willing to take the chance that she will do this each time you fight with her, then i say end it.

Answer 10

yeah why not. but let her know the if she ever pull something like that again you will beat her a ss