HELP ME!!
2006-12-04 03:01:37 · 18 answers · asked by joshua_smith84 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your TRuE FRIENDS will accept it, the false ones won't. Your parents may huff and puff, but they still love you.
2006-12-04 03:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay Joshua, calm down... That's the first step. Then evaluate it again, are you sure you're gay? How long have you known? You have to have known this for more than 2 years to qualify, and you should be in your late teens, 16+... If you're younger, just explore your sexuality and don't fret yet. This could be just a phase, with the raging hormones of adolescents and all.
If you're past the raging hormone stage, and you are alsolutely sure without a shred of doubt that you are gay (I'm being extreme here), then, come out! The closet is not the best place to live life, you'll be more productive and useful to society if you come out. But don't be pressured to do it though, there is always a time for everything.
2006-12-04 11:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should test the waters first. Subtly bring up issues like gay marriage and see how they react. Have you ever heard your friends or family make anti-gay remarks? If not, then they probably wouldn't have a big problem with it. If they have then there could be some problems. Do some testing and measuring and then make your decision about coming out.
2006-12-05 02:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, initially I had an answer for you. But then I checked your profile and read your only other question:
"Ok this might sound stupid but my girlfriend is 18 and I am 17 my dad died and I don't know how to have kids
so I don't know what sperm is and I don't know what you have to do help me please Oh I am stright though"
Sooooooooo, what's the scoop?
If you're gay, tell. Don't prolong the agony for yourself and others. I had several male gay friends in high school who were confused, and confused me along with them. Don't do that. It's not fair to you or the woman you're messing with.
If you're not, quit messing around with people's emotions!
2006-12-04 11:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend once that was very close to me he was gay and hid it from his friends and family. I only found out because I overheard him talking to his boyfriend, when I confronted him about it he admitted all and he felt so much better that he had someone to talk to. He has now told all his friends, family and work colleagues and he feels so much better because he feels that he's now actually admitted to himself who he really is
2006-12-04 11:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by soloxine_rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about a lot of things before coming out. Are your parents religious? Does their/your religion discourage sexuality? What are their views on homosexuality? It's very important to think about this or find out their views. I've had a friend who was kicked out of his home when he came out.
Does your community accept homosexuality in general?
2006-12-04 11:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by LexiSan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better for you to live your life honestly then to try and force yourself to live as a hetero. Doing that is like lying to yourself, denying your self and it's very destructive and you can develop lots of anger, depression, resentment, and self-loathing. You're parents may not like it, and it might take them time to get used to it, but they will always love you and hopefully accept it in time. If your friends don't like it, get new ones.
2006-12-04 11:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If women are actracted by u,it`s not the big deal.I have serveral gay friends.I again say it`s not the big deal,cuz it`s inportant who uare inside.
First:Talk to them
(exp:What do u thik about gay people)
Second:Ask yourself again:
"Am i gay?"
And when u`re ready,just let it glow!
Best wishes!
2006-12-04 11:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't just come out!! Make sure if you come out, it will be into a happy supportive environment - or if you're not sure, that you can handle it if it all turns bad. Yes, it will be hard, but until you're ready, don't do it!
And you might be surprised how supportive those around you will be.
2006-12-04 11:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Xavier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that ur friend will accept u no matter what! and ur family they love u ... but if u dont feel good telling them ur gay so just dont tell them and just wait until u feel u r ready!
2006-12-04 11:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋