Ok I knew the woman back in 97 we were involved, but she understood that I was coming back to the states with my wife. So I divorced and remarried and some how she got my work number probably from the internet, anyway she calls me at least once a week wanting to talk about things we did almost 10 years ago. She always asking how my marriage is working out, now I try not to be rude to her but this has got to stop.
2006-12-04 02:41:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have thought about this since we started talking again and I understand the things you did to find me again. You are a very nice person and our past was great but that is what it is our past. I have reached a point in my life where I feel like I am doing the right thing and I cannot afford to live in the past. I have been married two times already two kids and I cannot and will not move backwards. This pattern has to change in my life I cannot be the man you want me to be. I love my wife and I owe her all of my love and respect. I have changed for the better and I want to keep it that way, no sneaking around, no girlfriend on the side, no more. Please respect my choice to remain faithful to my wife. I really do not think we should talk anymore, I know just being friends will never happen, so we should just stop this now. You have done nothing wrong, I am not mad at you, but you, and I need to let this go, there is nothing you can do to change my mind. I hope you understand
2006-12-04 03:16:44 · update #1
that was the letter i wrote her soon as she called it had lil effect, this is crazy
2006-12-04 03:17:37 · update #2
You should remove your work number off the internet. Thats the best. Then tell her the next time she calls that you would rather to move on and you think its better not to talk anymore. Be nice about it. Goofd Luck. ! =]
2006-12-04 02:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by bananaboo517 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she's a stalker, but the best way to handle her is to tell her that you're in the middle of a really busy month at work with a lot of projects and deadlines. and that you'll call her back when things slow down. Tehn just don't call her. She'll probably call again in a month or two; tell her the same thing. She'll get the idea. Two calls in a few months and then being rid of her is better than pissing her off and having this psycho call people at work or your home and stir up problems.
Do tell you wife about her though. Tell her that it's someone you knew before you met her and she's psycho. If she has heads up on her, she'll be your ally and will help you get rid of her.
2006-12-04 10:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple tell her you are happily married and intimate details about your marriage is not her business. Also tell her that what y'all had is over and you do not want to start it back up.
Now I have to ask this question: How did a woman you met Overseas ten years ago, find out where you work at (I don't know your name but I'm pretty sure there is more than one person with the same name.)? Also why would she go through the trouble of tracking you down, do y'all have a child together?
P.S: Since you are married to a different woman (not the wife you was cheating on with her), you may want to tell your wife about this problem. Because if she can find your work number, I'm sure she can find out your home number too.
2006-12-04 10:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, she is a stalker, and you need to get rid of her. Stop being nice, stop the communication, and don't take her calls. Each time you talk to her, it is encouragement for her.
Let your wife know the situation so she is aware and can help you. Also, strongly consider contacting the police. Depending on where you live, you can either get a restraining order or file a statement detailing the harassment.
2006-12-04 11:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you should tell your wife about her, and how long ago, and that she is calling you. Then I would tell the stalker that she needs to stop calling you and it is the past, and that you are happily married. Then, if your phone number is listed, you should consider getting another number(unlisted). Don't be too mean about it, she may be the type to burn your name in your front lawn. You just need to tell her in a serious way, but not rudely. Good luck! :)
2006-12-04 10:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah shes a stalker..shes obviosly MADLY in love with you still....so....just ask her to stop calling....maybe it will stop eventually if you ignore it and dont give into her...or have your wife anwser the phone when she calls...that will get her
2006-12-04 10:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
make up excuses to get off the phone say you are going out to lunch or you have to do somthing work related or have you wife answer the phone that would help
2006-12-04 10:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by you dont know me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move to Utah and marry them both! Gee, is it really legal there. Ah, doesn't really matter, I can not even keep one wife half of the time.
2006-12-04 10:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think she is a stalker did you if she keeps calling you can get phone harassment charges on her
2006-12-04 11:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kathleen H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you entertain her, nip it in the bud. Don't fall for her trickery talk, unless you're wanting your cake to eat it too.
2006-12-04 10:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋