3 months ago my wife left me after an emotional outburst stemming from my non getting support in the raising of our seven tear old daughter, who is my step daughter. I made the terrible mistake of yelling and using foul language. My wife has since filed for an anullment and moved back with her mom. She had cut off all communication via e-mail and the phone. Well this last friday i called and she answered. I went on to say "I'm sorry" and she replied "Okay"... She then said whats done is done, and i went on to tell her how much i love and miss them both... she then said i have to go... her tone was very soft and not an angry sound... What sould i do next?
2006-12-04 02:37:44 · 9 answers · asked by john d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First you should go through anger management. She is probably really scared that this is the way you are and sounds like she made a choice not to put up with that sort of behavior. Let her know about your willingness to change the behavior and that you dont want to go through life without her and SHOW her that you are serious. This will take time and she might reject you for awhile, but what ever you do never show anger towards her rejection, it will only push her further away. Actions speak louder then words, just be careful and be patient with her. All the flowers and gifts in the world are nice gestures but they wont win her back, being the man that she needs will. Hope all works out for you and I will pray that you win her heart once again.
2006-12-04 03:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
At least you made the first attempt, but you should have done it sooner. Just let her think for a few days, or send her some flowers and let her know you will be waiting for her until she deceides what she wants to do. Just don't give her a hard time, and send her daughter something. But make sure whatever you do, it comes from the heart.
2006-12-04 10:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time .....she had the choice to speak to you
send her some flower or write a letter telling her how you feel ...the temtation to read it will be too great ...maybe the only way you will get to tell her how sorry you are
step children can be hard work ....you both have to set up boundries with each other
i kept my mouth shut in a realationship and it didnt work out
if we had talked bout it it may have helped
2006-12-04 10:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a dozen roses and write a small note on a card saying that you are sorry for all the bad names you called her, and ask if she will forgive you and go out to the movies with you and her daughter some night.
2006-12-04 10:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's done is done sounds like it's over to me. Sorry. And the tone of voice? She's probably just sad that things didn't work out. Good luck.
PS Keep groveling, it might help.
2006-12-04 10:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she forgives you and back home this means that she really love you.
Do what's in your heart.
Take her to a romantic dinner in her favorite place and don't forget the roses.
if hurt hurt her again, you don't deserve her
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-04 10:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she needs more time. give it to her. don't push her to make any decisions, she will make them when she is ready.
2006-12-04 10:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan for divorce.
2006-12-04 10:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get on with your LIFE. IT'S OVER..
2006-12-04 10:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋