For MEN only..(women too)..ways to tell if my man might be BI?

Question

hey guys whats up,
quick question...please I hope that no one take offense to this..it may not be nothing or it might be something..
I was with my guy this weekend and we sat down to watch Tyler Perry Madea goes to jail..one of the cahracters was a guy and when he walk out on stage he had on no shirt..his body was banging..hot hot hot..body to die for...so when may boyfriend saw this he made like a sound like hmm...a sound that represent ..damn he looks good...so i said he is not even cute..so my guy said no he is good looking..even though I shouldnt be judging..so I just ignore his comment..but later when he was explaining something too me..and the guy appeared again he was completely distracted by this guy in the movie.
and there are a few other occasions that he made remarks about other men bodies...
I am thinking that my guy might be bi-sexual..but have not embrace it..or is afraid of what others would think...if he is ..then I think that I have the right to know...help..

I have nothing against lesbians (i have friends) or gays..but if my guy is then he should tell me...I have asked him before if he was gay he told me no....are there ways to find out...

thanks all for your honest answers

Answer 1

This may not mean anything. Admiring another person's physical beauty and being sexually attracted to that person can be two different things. I'm a straight woman who's never been sexually attracted to another woman. But sometimes I see really good-looking women and I'll say "Wow, she's beautiful". Women are allowed to do this but unfortunately because of our society men aren't. His "hmm" could have been because he was thinking "damn, he's got a nice body. I wish I looked liked him" rather than "man, I'd love to get him in the sack". Don't jump to conclusions. If you're concerned keep your eyes open for other clues.

Answer 2

The signs are not yet definitive, you really need to get more proof. So this time, you need to ask questions, but please don't ask these questions one after another like a checklist, or you'll never get a decent answer. Just involve one question or two in your daily conversations and gauge his reaction and answers:

1.) How would you feel to have a threesome with that guy and me?
2.) How would you feel if that guy has his arms wrapped around you?
3.) Would you ever consider kissing that guy?
4.) Do you ever wonder how it feels to be in bed with that guy?
5.) What kind of guys turn you on? (If any)

You can create variations of the above questions. Don't be too insistent, just drop a few questions every now and then and gauge the reply. After a few weeks, if they are consistent, then you've got your answer.

In my opinion, if he is bi, you should have no problems, as long as he is committed to you.

Answer 3

The more important question is: Is he faithful to you? If he feels attracted to other women and/or men, but touches only you, what difference does it make whether he has feelings for other women and/or men? On the other hand, if he cheats on you, still what difference does it make whether he cheats with a woman or a man? If he's faithful, keep him, no matter what feelings he may have. If he cheats on you, let him go, no matter what feelings he has. It's a myth that bi people need one of each. Most bi men and women are monogamous. They are faithful to the person they are with, whether opposite sex or same sex. The percentages of straights who cheat, bi’s who cheat, and gays who cheat are about equal. When a straight cheats, no one stereotypes all straights as cheaters. But when a bi or gay cheats, other people tend to stereotype all bi’s and gays as cheaters. But it depends on the individual. If he's faithful, keep him, unless you're more concerned about what other people might think than how he actually treats you. It sounds like he very likely does have some bi feelings but most likely doesn’t act on them. But it’s possible that he just admires or feels inspired and encouraged by a good physique or athlete. If you make too much of an issue of this, you might spoil an otherwise better than average relationship. But if you don’t check it out at all, you might risk being taken for a ride. Try to case it out gently and lightly and playfully. The important things are whether he loves and respects you, whether he’s kind and faithful and responsible, not what your family, friends, and neighbors might say. © 2006 rustle

Answer 4

stable information - i do no longer think of your girlfriends gonna supply up turning you on. i think of you're bi and you have been irritating of your emotions for adult males for a protracted time. undesirable information - there's a gay pub close to me that i bypass to from time to time. there is usually a a load of previous adult males on the bar and approximately 9 out of 10 of them are married. they're there by way of fact of their day, exploring their emotions for adult males would have have been given them right into a super style of difficulty, so as that they ended up getting married and only suppressed all different urges. Now they're 50 - 60ish and carry around in a gay pub gazing youthful gay adult males dance and hoping for some action from some newborn finding for a 'daddy'. actual, you're in a position the place you would be able to desire to commit on your female, yet on condition that your effective you may stand in no way exploring this part of you devoid of fixing into an previous lonely pervert.

Answer 5

All I can say is ask. I've always been very upfront with anyone I've started dating, long before we got very far. Not everyone is that comfortable about bringing it up.

Of course, if you walk in on him having sex with the guy from next door, that could be a clue too.

Answer 6

Sounds like it to me. And it sounds like he's not trying to hide it from you really. So, you should just ask him. If he said yes, though, would you stay with him? It's a double standard if the guy is bi, it seems.

Answer 7

Sounds like he might even just be gay. As long as he is faithful to you it really doesn't matter how you label it. If he isn't then I would just be friends with him and nothing else.

Answer 8

Would you still love him if he were? Ask him about having a threesome with a guy friend. Just guage his reaction. He might just be the type to appreciate aesthetic beauty.

Or he could be bisexual. Who knows?

Answer 9

well he has already showed signs by staring at hot guys with hot bodies. he seems to show more interest in the guy than u.

Answer 10

Obiously he liked it.
Is different when you see an impresive body.
I think is you the best person for give you an anwer to you