ive split up with my partner of 7 months, we were friends for a year before a couple; it was a serious and close relationship and spent most of our time together. i do miss him and he me. but between it cant work as a couple. can a frienship start immediately, if not what amount of time do you think you should be apart before that can occur
2006-12-04 02:19:45 · 22 answers · asked by poppy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shouldn't you be friends already? I'm confused!
2006-12-04 02:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think the only reason that you miss eachother is because you guys are trying to find new routines. You did say you spent A LOT of time together. Basically, your in the missing the routine~ not eachother. Try to resume with some of your regular independant routines...waking up, having coffee, getting dressed, doing dishes, going to work. Find a hobby to fill in the space where you would have spent that time with him. Or start to read a big book that is thought provoking. You will feel more comfort in a routine.
2006-12-04 10:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation, but I was with this person for 9 months. We found that due to the intensity of the relationship, we had to take time apart. There is hope though...we are now friends and I even had the person over with the new girlfriend. They've been together 5 years now. I am happy for them.
2006-12-04 10:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nuttie Nettie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason behind the break-up. If the feeling was mutual and you both came to realize that things weren't working out between the two of you, then I'd say you could start the friendship over maybe within a month.
The question you need to ask yourself is how you would feel if you saw him out with someone else? Would it make you uncomfortable? What about if the roles were reversed? Could he handle it? When the time comes that the answer to this question is yes for the both of you, then you can start to hang out again without any issues / problems coming between you.
2006-12-04 10:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If youstart a friendship now, you will end up as a couple again. Which could be a good thing. So yes, I would start now before other intruders get between you and him and they will not accept the fact that you have a friend of the opposite sex, and then it will be you and your new partner who is having the problem!
2006-12-04 10:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the split up was amicable there is absolutely no reason why you can't still be friends from the git go.
The only times friendship doesn't work after break ups is when one party still feels more than friendly toward the other. Be sure you can handle it though and it's what you both want.
Talk openly and honestly about potential stumbling blocks...like how will he react if he sees you with another partner and vice versa.
Best of luck
2006-12-04 10:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I went thru that 7 years ago. and believe it or not hes my best friend ever. we know as a couple it didn't work out. but each relationship is different. but i cannot see why you two cannot be friends. If I had to do all over again with him I just be friends. good luck.
2006-12-04 10:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being friends is more important! Maybe in time you can work out your differences and be a couple again!! I wish you the best!!!
2006-12-04 10:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do u feel it can't work as a couple? no..I don't think you can pick up where you left off before and hop right back into being just friends again. please, be careful with each other's feelings. don't flaunt your new partner and don't put up with your ex hurting you purposely. I think with the right amount of time, whatever that may be, and with a lot of mutual respect, you can enjoy spending time with one another again as friends.
2006-12-04 10:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Emmy F 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
An ordinary friendship is a great idea, and there is no time like the present to kick it off. Life is short.
2006-12-04 10:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It actually depends on the two of you. I don't think anyone can set a certain time for it to happen it just will when it's the right time. good luck to you ;o)
2006-12-04 10:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋