Having the idea in my head that this was the one, how now do I get my heart to understand its over and start enjoying my independance?
2006-12-04 02:13:56 · 20 answers · asked by thetruemelain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe me, I've been there...Its so, so hard. All I can say is BE SURE. Sometimes you think you know that person is not the one, only to get out there and find out there is nothing better. Absense really does make the heart grow fonder. If you're 100% positive nothing is there anymore (no doubts) I'd say the best way for you to get over the past would be to simply move on. Take up a hobby you've always wanted to...Spend more time with friends,,,and eventually get back out there and meet someone new. Sometimes thats the thing that helps the most, knowing that you ARE loveable and live will not stop for your heartbreak =/ Good luck hun!!!
2006-12-04 02:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting over hurt takes time and it's a process. we begin to get past it when we stop blaming ourselves, when we stop expecting that person to just come walking through the door. starts to get easier when we realiaze that these things happen to us all, and just accept it, and know theres a reason why, although we can't see it right now. sure we are disapointed, and it's a true loss of someone we thought we knew. we can't do it alone, we have to get out and be with friends, sometimes we even need a therapist, or to join a group of people that have also gone through this kind of grief. we do grieve what we thought the relationship was, and what we think we lost. but maybe we only lost a life of hell and hurt. maybe it wouldn't have worked out, just be glad u weren't married with children before u found out about them. sometimes it is hard to see our beloved as they truly are, cause that would mean we made a mistake in ever picking them in the first place. we just have to accept what has occured, and know that there will be some pain, it's not something we can just will away, it is a process we go through that we must go through so we can move on, so we aren't tied in grief forever. it's not something we can just shove under the rug, and pretend isn't there, we have to deal with it, and not allow it to have power over us. eventually the heart will understand, and u will move on to someone else.
2006-12-04 11:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey it is going to take time to get over the hurt your feeling now. 2 weeks from now you will feel a little better than you do today. Be strong avoid the person as much as you can and try not to dwell on that person in your mind. Allow yourself to think about that person for only a short time, cry and do what ever you need to do, then for the rest of the day you need to divert your attention on something else, start a project, listen to music,hang out with friends,workout,do anything that will take you mind off of them. Think about the positives other than the negatives, obviously this wasn't the person for you, now the can start looking for that person.
There is advantages to being single
So many people think that once they finally find someone, they will be happy forever and they will have no troubles, NOT true, happiness comes from within. I can recall a lot people that are in a relationship and they are miserable. They're not happy at all! In fact, it's like they are in a prison. Many of them are trapped and they'd do anything to be in single. They'd give anything to be in your shoes today!
You can do whatever you want whenever you want!
You don't have to ask permission to go somewhere!
You can fool around with as many people as you want!
You can go to places you otherwise wouldn't go if you were with your significant other.
You are free. You don't have anything holding you back!
Best of all you don't have to listen to any bitching or nagging!
The list goes on.......
Focus on the positives I can't stress that enough It will help big time. If you believe in God, prayer helps too, he is a great listener.
Good Luck!
2006-12-04 10:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will heal in time...All you need to do is pray and think of this as another expreience and learn from the relationship and grow...
PRAYER is another form of healing because in time and prayer you will heal....
If this person was the right one for you then this person would have made you feel like no one else have made you feel....Not being sexually attracted to someone, its just a feeling that you will have...Its like something that you have never had before....It is hard to explain, you will know and calmness and peace will be in your life around this person and you will have that special someone......
Just relax and that special someone will find you and your paths will cross without you even looking for that someone special....
Like the Lord says,"HE MAY NOT COME WHEN YOU WANT HIM BUT HE'S ALWAYS ON TIME"....when you are ready and the Lord knows you are then it will happen...
Good Luck and just live life and your other half will come unto you...
2006-12-04 12:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time alone does not help, but it goes with the healing process. You need to realise, there isnt just 1 person out there for you, your chances of winning the lottery are higher then that, but there is many of those special ones out there for you and what you felt with this person can be felt even stronger with the new person that comes along
Misconception is also occupy your mind, well if you do that you are just supressing the thoughts even worse, but it does help, just not as likely as this one that im going to give you.
Think of it has a lesson, this is almost like a test in life to become stronger, your feeling weak atm you need to pull yourself up and get out there and enjoy life, that special person comes, but rather then thinking it lasts forever, it WILL last forever, in the mean time relax and chill out with friends
2006-12-04 10:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by wannabeomg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for your heart to heal but you have to work at it. Keep yourself occupied, do things that you love, laugh a little and live a little. You also have to accept that we live in a world of disappointment and nothing last forever. Do not let your sorrow overcome you think positive and pray. Remember nothing happens unless you allow it to, so realize that this is not the end of the world and allow yourself to move on. Change your mentality and be strong.
2006-12-04 10:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ans 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
By accepting that you made a mistake and forgive yourself. Do not become guilty. Time will heal the broken heart. It is better to end a painful relationship than endure it.
2006-12-04 13:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow yourself to cry for a week ... then allow yourself to be alone with your thoughts for a week ...then start by going out alone to a coffee shop or library for a week or so no more than one month... then allow yourself to start looking at other attractive people....from that point on nature will tell you if you wish to approach someone... and remember the last one has had ample time to change their mind if they did not then don't look back it's over and there is nothing there to build a future on...
2006-12-04 10:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by pbear i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do now is ask Jesus to help you with His strength to let go. After you have done that began to receive your deliverance and walk in it. Ask the Lord to heal you of the hurt that was cause and receive that too. Began to read the Word of God daily and as you read you will began to be loose from those feelings that has entrapped you. God is the deliver and He is ready to deliver. You will began to experience God's peace in your heart to move on. God bless you.
2006-12-04 10:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By understanding that God has a plan for you and he will decide who you will be with. If you mope over this person you will not be prepared to meet the perfect person for you that is out there right now as we speak.
2006-12-04 10:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋