Should we elope? We each have 2 children i feel they should be included. How big of a reception would be appropiate? Any advise would greatly be accepted. thanks
2006-12-04 02:10:57 · 22 answers · asked by anywine4me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think sometimes second marriages may be a sensitive issue when kids are involved, so I think it's a good idea to involve them so they feel included and like they are part of the new family union. I don't think there is a wrong or right way to celebrate a 2nd marriage. It does not deserve any less recognition just because your first marriage didn't work out. You are still in love with each other and making vows to each other so celebrate it however you see fit. I think friends/family would like to be included, but that's up to you.
2006-12-04 06:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married a second time, now 27 years ago. My first wedding was huge. Second marriage we both had 2 children. We were married in church I wore off white, we had about 50 guests and then a pool side reception at his sisters home. We catered the food. There is no reason you have to elope just because you were all ready married. Share this time with your family that loves you and friends that care and love you. Everyone I am confident is happy for the both of you.
2006-12-04 10:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and stepdad had a small ceremony and reception for 30 people at an inn. It was lovely. Just the closest family and friends came. The wedding party was just me and my sister and my two stepbrothers. You can also go on vacation just you and the kids and maybe a few other family members. Get married on the beach in the Carribbean, or on the deck of a cruise ship! Second weddings can be a blast. Congrats and good luck!
2006-12-04 10:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a rather large wedding when I got married back in 1992 my wedding party alone had over 10 people in it. We divorced {best thing in the world} and I remarried a few years back. We had a small wedding just my daughter {from my previous marriage}, his daughter from a previous relationship, a 2 witnesses and about 10 guests. We then had a large reception so that the people in our lives did not feel left out in our celebration of love. We did not have the reception at a church but outside at a lake and everyone enjoyed it.
2006-12-04 10:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
I think it's a great idea to involve the kids. How old are they?
WOuldn't it be nice then to have a "family" wedding?
Why not do something nice as a family. If the kids are young, do a disney wedding. Even theme. Mom can be the princess, and dad the prince.
After you get back, could have a small reception for family and friends.
If the kids are older, adult older, could do a vegas theme.
Again, congrats! Best wishes for your new life together
2006-12-04 10:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The generally accepted view is first of all do what you want, but second there is a tendency for second marriages to be much smaller affairs, depending on how much time has elapsed since the first weddings. I have been to some second weddings which dwarfed the first, but set a different tone. They were outside where the first one was inside, the food was buffet style where the first was sit down.
Really, you should do what you want/ can afford. i would definitely include the children.
2006-12-04 10:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by snowgoose8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I married my husband 30 something years ago - his second marriage, my first - we were married that Wednesday morning, and he caught a flight out next afternoon to his job site.We had just a couple of friends there, and we hadn't been able to find him any black shoes to wear on his big feet, to go with his suit. He was gone for a month, and I was in this huge apartment thinking to myself "I dont think I'm in Kansas any more" LOLOL
Well, here we are decades later, still laughing. Nothing to me seems sillier than one of those huge, elaborate weddings - all show and little substance - especially if the couple are divorced two or three years later. Make it small, make it simple, make it last.
2006-12-04 10:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I say plan anything you want. Maybe it doesn't have to be as extravagant as a first wedding, but by all means it can be just as big. I've been to many second weddings that were simpler but larger. Invite as many people as you think will be genuinely happy for you.
If you are worried about people thinking it's "tacky" to have a big wedding, then you can make a "no gifts" policy. Make it clear that you just want to get married and want people there to help you celebrate.
The kids can be included in so many ways. When my MIL got remarried, the bride and groom had their kids as "bridesmaids" and "groomsmen." This was appropriate, because by taking your new spouse, you are also taking his children, so pledging love to them is just as important. This was included in the vows.
2006-12-04 10:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i had been together for 9 years and had 2 children ..we eloped had the nicest time our best friends were our 2 witnessess and took us out to dinner after a lovely little ceremony on a small island on the lake i wouldnt do it any differently had a lovely night in a really lovely hotel kids were with friends .. i would totally understand if my children wanted to elope
2006-12-04 10:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small and quiet is the rule for 2nd marriages. Have it somewhere where you can get to the reception easily. (A backyard is good, if you live far enough south it will be warm. Don't make it formal - white gowns and tuxes are for kids just starting out. Invite your family and some close friends. Put "No gifts, please - your presence will be our presents" on the invitation.
2006-12-04 10:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋