I've been with hubby for almost 3 years now and we've been living together this whole time, but I've noticed that we don't spend time together at all! the only time we r together is in bed or in the car, other than that we r all the time with friends or apart because of school, work and activites... the thing is he never ever thinks abt taking me somewhere at least like once in a lifetime.. never even sees that we r not spendin time together..never crossed his mind at all..we talked abt it many times before and he told me he's goin to make some changes...but I dt see any change..I guess he just like the way we live...he likes being with his friends all the time-assuming that we already live together, so we're goin to see each other anyway-...am I wrong to think this way? what should I do? has he had enough of me??
ps: I'm a fun person and it really makes me wanna go ou out there and find someone who will have time for me...laugh w me..talk w me...go out w me...do crazy things w me..
2006-12-04 02:02:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not wrong to feel this way. Don't assume he's had enough of you, though. He probably really just assumes your needs are being fulfilled by just living in the same house as him. I went through this with my husband once. I got enough. I went to Wal Mart, bought a small air bed and moved into the other room. I also made a list of all our expenses and divided it, coming up with a total for my half. When it came time for bed and he realized what I had done, he was confused. I told him if he was going to treat me like a roommate, then I was going to act like one.
Things still aren't perfect, but I'll tell you one thing... he made more of an effort to spend time with me after that. Every time he sees that airbed box in the closet it's a reminder to him to spend time with me. It was worth the twenty bucks!
Good luck to you.
2006-12-04 02:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking right. You need to become financially free so that he need not work to support you. So you become a business woman and earn more than he does on a sustainable basis so that he can retire young and be with you most of the time. You want fun? try network marketing.
2006-12-04 06:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need companionship, that he is your best friend and you miss the one on one "fun time" and dating. Set up a real date with your hubby. Hopefully you can get his attention away from strictly boys night out.
2006-12-04 02:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋