My husband watches porn when I am not around. He hasn't suggested seeing it with him. Help!! what does this mean?
2006-12-04 02:01:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Though his watching porn when you aren't around points to different possibilities, it is still relatively harmless. Harmless compared to him engaging in something else that can be more devastating to your marriage.
Some try to fulfill their fantasies by watching something very unrealistic as it is in porn movies. Sometimes it can be to "benchmark" one's capabilities ~ "I want to know how I stack up against those most desirable male lovers".
Try discussing this subject with him when he's in a decent mood. Maybe even reiterate that there's nothing wrong in him watching an occasional porn movie. You may even suggest that you'd love to watch it with him, if he feels comfortable doing that.
Nothing like having an open conversation about it. It clears your mind about what he seeks watching them. He might be just thinking that you might approve of him watching ~ hence might have chosen to do it when you aren't around.
Go with an open mind. Have a conversation. Tell him that it's only natural and you approve of it. At the same time, make sure he understands that you feel bad because you haven't been given an opportunity to show him how cooperative and complimenting you can be, when it comes to intimacy and love.
2006-12-04 02:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 14:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, porn can ruin your marriage. It's sounds like your husband is using pornography as an alternative to having an affair because he doesn't want you involved in it. It also sounds like your husband has justified watching porn because it is not like he is actually having sex outside the marriage. But, he probably does want to cheat. If this continues he will cheat. I suggest you watch it with him to take the deviant aspect away from it. In all reality, if you are married to him, he directly involves you when he watches porn. It affects the way he views sex with you. You have to take control of it....
2006-12-04 02:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the initiative and ask him to watch some with you. It can be a good thing (assuming his interest isn't in watching men) He shouldn't feel that he needs to hide from you to watch it and you shouldn't view porn within a relationship as a dirty thing.
2006-12-04 02:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn need not ruin your marriage. It is a natural urge. Do not worry. It means that your husband is sexually active and is good for your marriage. You need to become sexier.
2006-12-04 06:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it to your husband a little more and he would not have to be dreaming about and looking at porn.
2006-12-04 02:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him what this means. We cannot analyze his mind. Could mean he enjoys porns and does not want to subject you to them. Could mean he masterbates when you are not around and enjoys masterbation. Could mean he does this and when you get home you benefit.....talk to hubby
2006-12-04 02:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't suggested it? Why don't you take the initiative and ask HIM. Either that, if it bothers you to watch it with him, tell him you know he does it and it bothers you.
2006-12-04 02:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes.
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2006-12-04 03:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it sure can. It is demeaning to women and thoroughly disrespectful to you. It means he does not value your marriage, your relationship or your vows. so sorry.....
2006-12-04 02:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋