Ok, this girl I know, her husband cheated on her with girls who do porn. She told me that he has some sort of brain malfucntion that triggers him to sometimes do the unthinkable. I told her he needs to see a doctor then, and that I don't believe something like that would trigger a person to go off and have sex with someone else. He is addicted to sex, and she as well as I feel like he used his condition as an excuse. He must not love her that much if he can't get help and talk to her about it. What do you think about the whole sex addition excuse?
2006-12-04 02:00:37 · 38 answers · asked by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sexual addiction is a real thing, but in NO WAY is it an excuse to cheat. He needs help. He needs to see a councelor to help him to overcome it. And any porn that he has access to needs to be blocked. I know from personal expirience. I was trapped in a sexual addiction, and it almost caused my wife and I to get a divorce because I was thinking only of myself. And NEVER once did my wife think it was an excuse for me to cheat if I wanted sex with other women.
I think the biggest cause of sexual addiction is the availability of porn, and people thinking that it's ok to look as long as you don't touch. Well that lie is what suckers people in. And once they are pulled in, it just gets worse and worse from there.
Along with this addiction he's thinking only of himself and what he wants, and isn't thinking about his wife. He needs to get his priorities in line, and start thinking of his wife before himeself.
He needs help, and soon.
2006-12-04 02:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard about sex addictions and they can ruin relationships. Although I'm sure that some people probably do have a real addiction to sex, I also believe that some use it as an excuse as well. In your friends case, it sounds like it is an excuse if he isn't willing to get some sort of help for it. He's basically having his cake and eating it too. I feel your friend would be better off talking to her husband about getting help and if he refuses and the cheating continues, she should leave him. How does he know he truly has this addiction?? Is that just what he says or has he been diagnosed by a doctor? Either way. Good luck to your friend and please let her know that she deserves better. She shouldn't have to settle on someone who wont treat her with respect.
2006-12-04 02:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Danelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NO excuse to cheat on your significant of other at all. And anybody that does cheat on the significant other does NOT care about them at all. No matter how bad it is at home, if they think that they have to go out there, have sex or what ever with everything acting like an animal, then they don't need anybody waiting on them at home either. They need to just go and live like the dog they are and live alone. These people (if you can call them people) that cheat, just needs to end the relationship with the significant other and live with the other dogs that are out there. Just being with someone else other than their significant other and no sex it still cheating. They deserve each other.
2006-12-04 02:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex addicition like any addicition can be controlled only if that person wants to change. Men are always looking for flimsy excuses to justify anything they do, especially when it comes to cheating. I think he knows good enough what it is he's doing so don't allow him to fool his wife. If he wanted to change, he would've done so every since but the fact that he's making up excuses, proves that he's enjoying that strange lifestyle so his wife needs to make a conscious decision by asking herself: Will I continue to put up with this nonsense and expose my body to possible diseases he may be carrying as a result of his infidelity? Or Will I get rid of him and start a new life with someone normal?
2006-12-04 02:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They make medication for that--seriously, and they generally refer to someone with a mental problem that causes them to do the unthinkable a sociopath--never a good thing. There is never an excuse to cheat on your spouse. If you wanna have sex with someone else get a divorce first. If she bought that load of crap they both need a doctor.
2006-12-04 02:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Erica B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True sex addicts do as he does. However, if they know this is his problem and do nothing about it then I would say that your friend is just as wrong for allowing this and putting on blinders to this. Yes he need help. And she need to think what horrid disease he could be bringing home to her. This sounds very much as an excuse on your friends part. Instead of facing the problem she is masking it covering it up with the term sex addiction. She is in denial I would imagine. Tell her to go get help for this situation on her own where she can get strength to stand up to this man and let him know this is not all right with her, unless again it is all right with her. Then bow out gracefully because in the long run this is not your problem concern and you should not be in the middle of her relationship if she is content
2006-12-04 02:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While sex addiction is a very real problem for some, it is no excuse for cheating. If your friend and her husband need to see a specialist that can help them take control of their addiction.
2006-12-04 02:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by princezelph 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex addiction is a treatable disorder, but he needs to see a professional, and join a support group. Help is available! And no, it's not an excuse for cheating on his wife. If she allows him to continue cheating, her life will be miserable. Your friend should consider leaving her husband until he seeks professional help, and is able to control his addiction!
2006-12-04 02:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A sex addiction should not be an excuse to cheat. it seems that she is accepting the situation so he would not seek help and he will not stop.
2006-12-04 02:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't see a doctor & thinks his ok without going into a medications then that's purely an excuse...If his addicted then he can be addicted to his wife not to be with different women. That's unforgivable for me. If someone cheat with me it's either unintentionally would be so hard to trust him back so there's no way I would spend my life with someone I could never trust since it was broken.Divorce is the answer!
2006-12-04 02:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by hottemper_princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋