I know I shouldn't be feeling sad because I'm no longer a kid, but I feel so sad about the things that are happening in my life right now, and I can't stop worrying about them and about the welfare of my parents who are past 60, and I just wish God would listen to me for once and give me the assurance that he watch over my parents and keep them safe from all harm and danger and give them only happiness and true joy till the end of their lives. Even my old school friend won't return my calls and I understand what I could have possibly done to deserve this sort of cold treatment from him, because I know he is doing fine, but I just wish he would return my calls or emails some time and he hasn't done so in months. I wish someone would remember to give me a present this Christmas because I feel like I'm the only one in my family who thinks of everyone else and for the second year in a row, my family members, all 7 of them have decided not to exchange presents. I wish someone cared for me:(
2006-12-04 01:55:08 · 21 answers · asked by xander 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I want to thank all of you for taking the time to reply my post, because I just couldn't stand not having anyone to talk to just now cos I was feeling very sad inside. I do realise that I should be thankful for what God has given me in my life, and that there are lots of families who can't make ends meet this Christmas, especially single moms, and my heart goes out to all of you. I really wish I could trust God to take care of my parents till the end, but in the back of my mind, I keep thinking that they are going to die soon. For this, I would like to ask you to please pray for me because I feel so weak spiritually. There was a time when I didn't believe in God due to my overwhelming problems, but I know there is a God and that I need him more than ever now. I try my best to help other people in my life, but inside I am a broken person.
Thank you once again for your kindness and encouragement and advice, and for caring... I'm grateful beyond words. Merry Christmas to all of you!
2006-12-04 03:46:09 · update #1
I feel for you. I too, have felt this way. I have no family at all and yet none of my "friends" thought to even call me on Thanksgiving, my birthday or for the past many Christmases.
Continue to give and be generous of yourself to others even if they do not return it. It will feed your soul to know that you have done good.
Perhaps volunteer to serve at soup kitchen or wrap gifts or deliver meals to the elderly and homebound on the holidays. since your family is not really celebrating, it shouldn't be a big deal to them and it will let you feel some appreciation from someone else and give yoiuself satisfaction.
In your families defense, sometimes people don;t ever let someone know that they are appreciated and that they appreciate your generosity. Of course, that isn't really an excuse since they are adults, but it is hoe things ar sometimes.
If you continue to feel blue, seek counseling or professional help to get you through this rough time. Or (and I'm going out on a limb here - contact me via email and I will try to lend an ear)
Good luck to you.
michelle
2006-12-04 02:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by island3girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God is always listening and loves us. He wants us to be happy, but maybe your heart isn't open for his answers. Your parents being "past 60" is not a worry in itself. God is watching over them and wants only the best for them, but life is a mystery and is not always perfect.
Even though you know your old school friend is doing fine, they're may be things going on in his life that are absorbing all of his time and attention. Keep in touch with him with emails, keep it light and friendly and when he is ready, he will respond.
Christmas is not about receiving presents. It is about celebrating the birth of the infant Jesus, it is about love and family. Just because your family is not exchanging presents, doesn't mean you can't celebrate Christmas. I am assuming that money shortage or time constraints are the reason for the decision. Plan a family get together, maybe everyone could bring one gift and do a surprise exchange. Or everyone bring a covered dish to share, enjoy Christmas music, old stories and just enjoy each others company. Many blessings to you and your family and have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-04 10:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down! I am sure people do care for you. Sharing of presents does not show care, it shows tradition of what we humans have made out of Christmas. As for why your old school friend has not returned emails etc maybe this person is tired of you feeling sorry for yourself and cannot handle it. People care for you if you open your eyes and see. Have you never given a present at work or some other place just because there was an exchange? Did that mean you cared for the person you had in the exchange? No not all the time. Slow down to find the blessings in your life. Bet they are there if you only open your eyes and find them.
2006-12-04 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I mean this in the kindest way possible, but I'm going to be truthful here. Your question is all about YOU. I know you don't think so, but if you look carefully it all revolves around YOU.
How do you know your parents aren't happy? Let them live their life. 60 is not that old!
Your old friend from school hasn't called you. Maybe he's busy and has other things going on. You don't know what is happening in his life.
Christmas is supposed to be about GIVING. Since your family isn't exchanging gifts, why don't YOU still do something for each family member...just let them know that you love them.
If you don't expect anything in return and give from your heart, YOU will get gifts from others in many forms.
merry christmas to you
and don't forget you are loved!
2006-12-04 10:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by luvguns2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. That sound very sad. Just keep praying for your parents. And, maybe the old school friend won't call you back because he is very busy or maybe he has a girlfriend who doesn't appriciate him having long conversations with other women (if you are a woman, you didn't say...so I don't know!) But, I wish you a very merry Christmas! Maybe you should spend it with your parents, or have a dinner and invite all your family...
2006-12-04 10:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am at a loss.... k, it passed. Someone does care for you. God. He is always there, you just have to have faith. Read his word, pray and pray hard, spend time with him, talk to him, he's there, ready and willing to listen. Pour your heart out to him. Remember, Christmas has always been and always will be the relection of Christ's "birthday", it was never meant to give presents, but to celebrate our savior. So, if you are looking for a present, how about looking at the one that keeps on giving. His forgiveness, love, companionship, and the fact that he took a serious beating, to save us. I'd say that's a pretty big gift, you know, the gift of life.
2006-12-04 10:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear your situation. This is the time for giving and even though your family has decided not to give gifts, doesn't mean YOU don't have to give THEM gifts. Like another person said, buy them a card and maybe just a small gift...like candy.
Your friend may just be busy with his family and holiday activities. Give him time and he'll probably come around.
Take comfort in your religious beliefs, God has a plan for us and when this life is done, Heaven waits.
2006-12-04 10:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lidya D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a friend desparately, I think you should talk to your family members, let them know how you feel. They should support you, and let them know that you are feeling lonely, and that you could use some family support and love. I know with myself, sometimes I get that way, but you definitly need to open up and hopefully, they will be there with open arms. Christmas, is a time for family love and joy. They care for you, you just need to let them know that you are lonely. And I guarantee you they will be able to understand you better once you let them in. Good Luck And Merry Christmas, And Happy New Year!!!!
2006-12-04 10:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by squeaky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to do charity work. Get your mind off of your problems. Heck, why not buy yourself a christmas present with all the money you save by not buying all the family something. God is there and He does answer prayers, but sometimes we need to get off our butts and help him. You can sit on the side of the bed and ask God to find your other shoe, but until you get off your butt and start looking, he can't guide you. You don't think God watches over us? We are all his children, he loves everyone. He just wishes we would have more faith in him and help one another more.
2006-12-04 10:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Becky F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust all your cares in the Lord. I mean, if you trust God by your heart, don't doubt it. Have faith. Believed and received the blessings. God want's you to prosper not to harm you. If you don't know the way, pray and He will direct you. Your parents are in good hand. Again trust the Lord because He will take good care of them more than you do. Relax and stop worrying. Enjoy the blessings what you have right now. Set back and smell the flowers. :-)
2006-12-04 10:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mai L. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋