I know it might sound crazy to some but I am really sad that this part of my life is over. I have 2 kids and we are done. I wonder if this is normal to feel like this.
2006-12-04 01:46:40 · 11 answers · asked by Rockinrobin 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is normal. We have 2 also, but decided that's all we wanted. I loved being pregnant. I had easy pregnancies though. Even the child birth process wasn't that bad, and you get a lot of good attention after you have a baby. I think a lot of women miss that part of it, however, my kids are 5 and 7 and they are pretty self sufficient as far as getting drinks and eating on their own. I don't have to pack a diaper bag with 3 outfits in case the baby soils their outfit, I don't have to wipe any more stinky butts (or backs when the diaper fails to catch it all), I get to get a full nights sleep and I don't have to wear padding in my bra to catch the leakage or buy formula any more.
Yes, I miss all the fun parts of pregnancy and child birth, but I just remind myself about all the work that comes along with it when I get home and back to every day life. I love my kids with everything I have, and obviously having a baby isn't all bad, but I really don't want anymore.
2006-12-04 02:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not finished having children just yet, but with my first, I think I had a very bad experience- my pregnancy was just very uncomfortable the entire time-didn't feel like my body at all... and then the labor was even worse- 19 hrs of labor with the last 4 hrs of it the epidural wore off entirely- oh my goodness the pain was terrible, all to end up in a c-section having to be put under because the spinal didn't work either. I was traumatized by it all, and in the hospital said I couldn't have another child because of all the pain... now that i'm better, I would do it all over again because I have such a wonderful blessing with me today. But I can say no, I won't be looking forward to the labor, and even pregnancy if it goes the same.
2006-12-04 01:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am finished with having babies, and sometimes I do miss that 9 months process... but at the same time, I am totally happy to just be a grandma and enjoy the rewards of loving and caring for a baby without the total responsibilities that go along with it!
I love to be a grandma now... I waited my whole life for this time!
I know it's crazy, I still wanted to have more children, even after my 6 and now that I'm older, I do envy younger women who are pregnant,.. it's a beautiful time for some things, but not for others!
I would just want all the good feelings and not the pains.... ;0)
2006-12-04 01:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! I was blessed with a child at an "advanced maternal age". It was quite a shock and completely unexpected but it turned out to be the greatest experience of my life. The pregnancy was uneventful but wonderful and the delivery was AWESOME!! I wish I could do it again...I labored at home and arrived at the hospital 20 minutes before my little guy was born. No drugs and I loved the experience. If I had had any idea how great it was I would have done it much sooner and many more times!!
2006-12-04 02:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you. I have two kids (20 mos and 3 yrs) and my husband had a vasectomy so we are not having anymore. At first, I was happy to never be pregnant again but now I really long for one more baby. I didn't really care for pregnancy but I did love child birth and nursing and just holding a bundle of joy in my arms.
2006-12-04 01:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Falina T. Rayon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that too. I try to think that I'll get over it later, and to just enjoy the children I have now. I have 3, and adding that 3rd was BY FAR the hardest transition. My mother had 5 and she said after 3 it's all the same, and the 3rd is the hardest transition.
I would have really liked to have a daughter, but perhaps I'd only spoil her into rotteness. God assures me I will have granddaughters to pour my love and money on!
2006-12-04 01:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I miss the pregnancy part, feeling the baby kick, getting weird cravings. I don't miss the Labor and Delivery, though. I had it rough with both my kids and wouldn't go through that again. It's one reason why I stopped at two.
2006-12-04 01:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by imaharding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal. I have a 7 month old and already miss being pregnant. It took 10 years to make him happen, so chances are I won't get pregnant again and that makes me very sad...I enjoyed it.
2006-12-04 01:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never really missed being pregnant.i missed them being babys more than anything.it goes by so fast and its hard to enjoy it sometimes because youre incredibly sleep deprived!!ya the whole pregnancy process was never very enjoyable for me.strangely though i did enjoy the birthing process.well not the pain but the whole experience is neat.
2006-12-04 02:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by these r my people 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people it is normal. I went through 4 years of infertility workups/surgery before I was able to have my one child, a daughter. She is 35 and I still miss those early years. I guess you and I are naturally nurturing women!!!!
2006-12-04 01:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋