2006-12-04 01:20:52 · 17 answers · asked by jonni_richter 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If she is fed, changed, not sick, and just not wanting to go to sleep on her own, there is nothing wrong with letting her cry for a little bit.
What I have done is a modified cry it out. I would lay baby down after I knew they were tired but changed, ect. If baby cried I would wait 5 minutes and go in to check on him. I would pat his back, give him is blankie and walk out again. This time I would stretch the time to 7 minutes. Keep increasing the time and most likely baby will put herself to sleep. Try not to pick her up though or she will quickly learn that if she cries long enough mommy will come to rock her.
*This might not be right for everyone. Some parents feel that crying it out is not their cup of tea and that is fine for them. For me though it was the only way to teach baby to sleep.
2006-12-04 01:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
IF she is not hungery, sick, or in need of a diaper change I think it's fine. There were time I let both my daughter and son cry themselves to sleep. And it never took more then a few night and they were going to sleep on their own with no tears.
I followed a method from birth (but you can start it now still) outlined in the book Babywise. You should check it out. It has some really good advice and step by step instructions. Hope you start getting some good night sleeps soon.
2006-12-04 01:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by kkr623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That just teaches her that her parents only care about her during the day. It will hurt your trust relationship and make her less happy as a toddler. It also makes sleep scary for her. Just rock or nurse her to sleep. For a little baby that is a need, and they outgrow it eventually. Just enjoy rocking her in the quiet dim light. Watch how her eyes close and open again, then close for a little longer, until she's asleep. These moments are precious. Don't miss them.
2006-12-04 02:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do it with my kids from about 3 mo.... you don't have to let her scream for hours, just don't go there every time right away. Let her cry for few minutes, go in pat her back, leave and let her cry little bit longer.... and so on. She'll learn soon. I always had to watch the clock though - I would tell myself I'll let her cry for ten minutes but with screaming baby it seems like eternity. After a minute it seemed like a very long time .... but if I would stick with the "10min rule" she'd be asleep 95% of the time. So if you decide to go this way, be strong! :-)))
2006-12-04 01:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by aaja 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its ok. my first born was collicky cryed alot. my family doc told what to do at six months its probley gum sore from the teeth developing. trust me this works. pour a shot of wiskey into a shot glass use your finger to rubb some on the babies gums and drink the rest yourself you will both get a great night sleep. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 01:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm personally against letting a baby cry herself to sleep. mainly because they are developing their sense of self based on the importance you place on her through the way you care for and treat her. by not answering her cries, she is learning that she is not important.
however, i do undertand the frustrations of a crying baby!
having a routine they can predict always helps with getting them off to sleep.
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2006-12-04 01:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by noodle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Parenting is a 24/7 job. CIO is cruel. Babies cry because they need something. It's how the communicate. And sometimes what they need is just mom and dad to comfort them. I promise you that you don't have to "train" your child to sleep. She will learn to fall asleep on her own when she is ready.
2006-12-04 01:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried that, it tore me up inside and she was beginning to be more frighten at bed time then relaxed. My husband and I decided to alternate nights laying next to her until she fell sleep. Then we leave the room. She sleeps a lot better that way now. If she wakes up in the night we just lay next to her and wait. That's what being a parents all about!
2006-12-04 01:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Don't you want a good bonding with her? If she is to feel secure and trust her world then her cries must be attended to as soon as possible. She is a little baby, dependant on you. She can't walk or talk or help herself. Don't leave her weeping.
2006-12-04 01:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Zoey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, its not okay your baby needs to be comforted by you, holding your child will allow you to bond with your baby touch is very important with a young infant such as yours .Crying is away that your child is using to communicate their need, if it needs to be changed, held or talked too. You can work on a routine with your child soft music, humming ,but you need to be consistent with it, so that your child will get into the routine of it as well.
2006-12-04 01:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Priscilla B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋