i think my hubby cheated , what do i do?

Question

ive been with my guy for three years now and we have kids together. 2 weeks ago i found emails that he had been sending to his girlfriend. im so crushed. i went into his email account and possed as him and started sennding emails to her. i found out that he thinks i treat him like crap that he was only with me because of the kids and that he was waiting for me to go back home so they could be together. this is what she was telling me she thought i was him though. he denies that any thing happened other then a friendship. well later on in the first week i msnd her i wanted to know what was going on. she didnt say much untill my hubby told her to leave us alone. then she said that he got her pregnant and that he was always over there when he was sappose to be out with his friends. the onaly reason i believe this is because she was able to tell me some deep secrets about me and him. its been 2 weeks now.he swears that he was never over there that he had never touched her.who do i believe

Answer 1

wow this just happen to me also you have to trust your heart when i say that i mean really think how does this girl know any thing about you or him if he did not say any thing it is going to be hard but i left and he call and call until he told me everything he wont miss anything until it is going it will be hard to deal with but at the end only you knows what is best for you and your family

Answer 2

I'm sorry this is or maybe going on, but U have to know that guys are DOGS and they cheat for whatever reason they feel the need too,

Guys will tell otner woman that things are going south at home just to have the other woman feel sorry for them so they can get her in bed. I remember once a guy told me his life story on how his wife stopped having sex with him because of the kids and because she's put on weight( I rolled my eyes the whole time he was talking) because I knew it was all a bunch of crap.

Ur hubby is a DOG( I'm sorry ) but he's wrong for doing this to u and the family he's a liar, a cheat and he's NOW gonna be a father to a outside child. He dug this hole himself just because he's couldn't keep his pants on around another woman. Who do u believe u may want to believe because something happen and he's trying to get out of it ( u should treat hen) him with a DNA tell him that u intend to have a DNA after the baby is born( watch the look on his face) because DNA don't lie( he does) but DNA will let u know 99.9 %

These deep secrets she's been telling u how do she know unless he's told her? he could have been telling her all kinds of lies and making u look like that bad guy. I just hope that the baby isn't his and either way u and he can rebuild trust again


Good Luck

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that your husband has cheated on you. I am sure that you had some suspicion that he was cheating before you discovered the emails (you did not tell us this). However, I am going to tell you that you should believe your gut. Do not believe what he is telling you because he has already violated your trust so, he will tell you anything to make sure he keeps his neccessities. Second, take what she tells you with do discretion because she is probably upset that he had asked for her to leave you alone. Last, sometimes as wives we forget our mates. So, they may go astray looking for excitement. If he didn't love you he wouldn't have let her go. So my advise is to rediscover your relationship with him. A marriage is a special thing. Do not throw it away. If after a while your relationship has not come to terms. Then there are plenty of men out there that need a woman. Also, if this chick thinks she is pregnant, demand a pregnancy test with him taking her to a clinic. Take care. I hope for the best of the both of you.

Answer 4

There are two possibilities:

1) He cheated on you.

2) He was using her as a shoulder to cry on, and she had a crush on him, and was devistated when she figured out he likes you better and isn't leaving you for her.

Obviously, if it's number 2, you don't want to just assume it's number 1. You'd be loosing a good guy if you left him and it was number 2.

So where is this baby she was suposedly pregnant with? They don't generally just dissapear. Maybe a paternatiy test is in order? If your husband accuses you of not trusting him, tell him it's not that you don't trust him, you just never want to have a reason to wonder.

There's other things that are even easier. So he was supposed to be out with his friends... was he? If he was out with his friends, he wasn't with her. A person can't be in two places at once. Ask his friends. If they're covering for him, there will be differences in their stories.

You have every reason to be suspicious, but make sure he's lying before you do anything drastic. You don't want to loose a guy who is good just because some other chick figured out he's good and developed a crush.

Answer 5

This is a tough one....she may know "deep secrets" simply because he told her, it doesnt mean he actually did anything with her. You didnt say how they met...in real life, or online? How far does she live from you? Maybe they just met online and have become friends..But if she thought she was talking to him and not you, then yeah, whatever she said during that time was true.... You should sit him down and tell him that now is the time to be honest about your realtionship...ask him if he's unhappy..if so, why? What would make him happier? What would you like to be different between us? open the lines of communication with him...If you love him , could you forgive him if he were unfaithful? If the answer is yes, then tell him that and that if he wants to stay in this marriage then you need to go to marriage counseling...

Answer 6

How can you at this point believe anything that is tells you? If I found some e-mail crap on my husbands computer, I would have to confront him with the evidence and watch him squirm out of it. No husband should be having private e-mail chats with another woman downing his wife. Since he is only staying with you because of the children, tell him that you release him from his bondage and that he can leave anytime he gets ready, and you'll be fine. Even if you don't mean it, let him think that you are in charge and you call his bluff before he has a chance to leave you!

Answer 7

Theres an old saying... keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Keep talking to her and you will find all the answers you need to know and probably some you dont. Keep everything as cordial as possible with him too tho. Work them against each other. Then get the hell out of there. If he's having an affair your marriage has been over. The affair was just the final straw.

Answer 8

Please. You should believe your instincts. At the very least, your SO was having an emotional affair. They are usually followed by sex. If it hasn't happened already, it will.

Is he willing to go to marriage counseling? If not, then you can either stay with him and feel degraded or kick him to the curb. Keep in mind, that if he did get this other woman pregnant (1) he's not using a condom and you could get STDs and (2) depending upon the state, if she sues for child support, YOUR income could be garnished to help pay for his infidelity.

Answer 9

u can believe her, he is the liar. he lies so he won't have to be accountable, or admit to it, had to be more to it if she was pregnant by him. sure he is going to lie to get the heat off of him. u will never be able to trust anything he says again ever. your marriage as u knew it is no more. what u do is up to u, but if he won't even come clean with it, u can't work on the marriage. he is a coward and wants to hide what he's done instead of admit it, to admit it he would have to make a decision, and make some changes, he just isn't going to deal with it. he was cheating, and he did want to be with her and did want u to leave. she knows too much to just sweep it under the rug and deceive yourself into believing it didn't happen.

Answer 10

dont believe anybody and pack his bags dirty underwear and all and tell him goodbye and you hope he will have a happy life . Then you get yourself to a lawyer and file for divorce . why would you even think about putting up with this crap? Get rid of this cheater and yes he did cheat why would he be emailing her unless some hanky panky was on his mind cmon girl get real he did something and you have every right to have a happy life . good luck and god bless and happy holidays.