I am a girl, I have a boyfriend. I am a virgin.
Lately, I started talking about how i don't understand how people have sex, and what is the pleasure for women. I don't think personally that there can be any pleasure for a woman to have a dick inside her. I also think that there are higher risks than pleasure in sex for women(stds, pregnancys). and whats the point of having sex, if you don't enjoy it. i hear it hurts too...
so is that a sign of me not liking guys. I really do, it's just the sex part that I don't EVER want to deal with.
2006-12-04 01:13:32 · 15 answers · asked by You're giving it all away! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wouldn't call it a definite sign, more just apprehension. Yes, it might hurt, and yes there are risks, but it will probably be enjoyable. The point is, it is a big step, so it's normal to be a little worried. Really, I'd think doubting your sexuality would be a bigger sign.
2006-12-04 01:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Xavier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are young. Many women have pain during intercourse for the first time. It is also true that some women get greater pleasure during sex than others. It is also dependent on the partner. Women can have wonderful pleasure. Please just wait until the time is right and have it with a caring man. I don't think you are lesbian or bi. If that does end up to be the case this is fine as well.
2006-12-04 09:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by needhelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a lesbian or bisexual because you don't want to have sex. Heck, sometimes I'm not in the mood to have sex with my husband and I love men only!! Initially, sex is painful. But after a few times, it is very pleasurable. Especially, if the male you are with is gentle and patient. Take your time. Don't rush into it. Save it for when you get married.
2006-12-04 10:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't knock it until you try it (but also - don't try it until you're ready and in a committed relationship). I know that from a rational standpoint, it seems counterintuitive that it could be enjoyable, but I know very few women who feel that way when they have a loving, attentive partner. In fact, they feel quite the opposite.
2006-12-04 09:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're aroused prior to intercourse, the discomfort is minimal, and in great contrast to the immense pleasure.
This is a very hetero concern . . .
2006-12-04 09:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think that what u feel is a sign that u r bi or les.. but i used to feel just like u well i still feel that and now i know that am bi.
But u maybe wanna try something with a girl, so u can defined ur self better. :)
2006-12-04 11:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get older and more mature, then start thinking about that stuff. ur number one priority should be school. later on in ur life u will figure out what u want, and everything will fall into place. don't rush. give it time.
2006-12-04 11:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think this has anything to do with your sexual orientation. You are obviously young and not ready for sex, thats all.
2006-12-04 09:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try it first... and then you can say something like that but you can´t say that you don´t like guys just because the sex... there´s more so try it! and good luck!! :)
2006-12-04 10:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply are not ready to have sex yet, from what you described, you are soooo straight.
2006-12-04 11:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋