18 months between kids?

Question

how did you get on? Hubby says i can have a cleaner when baby no 2 comes do you think i should or is it easy enough to manage?

Answer 1

kids or not - if you can afford a cleaner get one!! i have a two year old and one on the way. our cleaner comes once a week for a morning and does most things. its fantastic. she comes on a friday so the house is done for the weekend. if husband is offering - trust me - take him up on it !!!!

Answer 2

Get a cleaner definitely!! There is 17 months b/w my 2, son is 20 months now & daughter is 3 months.
Everyone told me it wouldn't be easy & believe me it's not!! My son was still going to his childminder till about 3 weeks ago & that was fine,I did the housework then or went into town shopping etc.
Since I have had them both at home all day it has ben a nightmare! I get maybe one hour to myself in the afternoon when they are both in bed so rather than do housework I chill out!!
The house is a tip at the moment and sometimes it gets me down but other times I just think "So what!!" It will get done sooner or later (probably later!)
I am due back to work in February so I will definitely need a cleaner then.
I am enjoying being at home with them both too much to worry about housework and I know that when they are older they should hopefully be really close.

Answer 3

I think you should wait and see how you cope. You may find that having a cleaner around gives you a useful social contact or you may find it drives you mad to be under the cleaner's feet. Babies tend to sleep a lot during the day when newborn so you should manage fine at least for the first year, especially if you get a lot of support from your husband. My advice is to wait and see. But don't try to take on too much by the same token, especially towards the end of your pregnancy and immediately after the birth so that you can prepare for baby and recover yourself properly. Be open to any help available but don't depend on it. Also if you do get a cleaner, make sure it is through an agency who take proper references and make CRB checks for the safety of your children who will probably be around when the cleaner is. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

There's 18 months between my boys and I wish someone had (and still would) hire a cleaner for me.LOL My boys are 3 and 4 (almost 5) and can be little mess makers. It's a full time job just keeping up with them to keep the house from being strowed with toys. If hubby is offering, I would jump at the chance!!! You can try it anyways. Honestly, I can't imagine letting someone else clean my house for me, I am one of those ppl who like things done a certain way and have a certain place for things. If you are a very flexable person, try it and see if you like it. Good luck and congrats on #2!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I manage with 5 children. 2 of which are twin 15 month olds. If I could afford the cleaner I would be all over that like flies on you know what.

Answer 6

There is 19 months between my son and daughter. It was very hard work at first - I got post natal depression because I lacked a support network and had to do everything by myself. If you've got good support then I would say, go for it - it's a good age gap. At 3.5 and 2 they are just starting to play with each other, to communicate and, hopefully, to become good friends. There was also no issue of jealousy, which there can be when the first one is a bit older. Good luck!

P.S. I do have a cleaner and she's an absolute blessing!

Answer 7

Hi - I know we are all different etc - some people have extra help and such so its all down to each to their own, but Im a mum of 3 and when I had my little girl who is coming upto 4 - I had a 10 month old ha ha (yes - you did read that right , and another little boy who turned 3, two days after having her). It was hard - I have no one else to help apart from partner - but managed - as long as kids were ok and I was healthy enough to look after them thats what came first - housework etc came 2nd - yes somedays the house looked like a bomb had hit it - but got there - and theres no shame at all - if you can have one and want one then why not.

Answer 8

girl depending on you how do you feel be truthful to yourself and see if you want a cleaner or if you need a cleaner are you comfortable with it but if you feel you can handle it do it my sister in law has 4 kids a six year old a five year old a three year old and a one year old with another on the way she never had a cleaner and shes 27 and still in a beautiful body and her house is so clean you can serve dinner without a plate on the floor so its possible just with two kids

Answer 9

TAKE THE CLEANER!!!


Why on earth not? Fifteen months between my first two, I was just weaning my eldest, when I was pregnant again - and breastfed my second for six months as well. I went two and a half years being either pregnant or breastfeeding, which was madness in retrospect.

I found the first six months the hardest, and I would certainly get someone in for at least those months if I were you. Also, get a babysitter or doula so you can get a little time for yourself.

Good luck!

Answer 10

,well yes and no, my kids are that age difference and i managed without a cleaner but i love my house CLEAN, though I'm not obsessive, i do however, think it would allow you to spend great quality time with each child as i felt i never had enough hours in the day....you know what, saying that Go on, treat yourself for the first year then see after that if you wanna change your mind

Answer 11

Having 2 definately makes you realise how easy 1 is. But you figure out how to do things differently, making sure everybody is happy and gets what they need. It's mad, mine are 18 months apart so to get out now takes about 1 hour and not 1/2 hour it did with just the one! (You get the youngest sorted out, turn round get the oldest sorted by which time the youngest has decided now is a good time to play hide and seek!!..fun fun fun!). Go for the cleaner if it'll make you feel better but you do figure out how to do things just like you did when your first came alone. Enjoy, having your first is magical but having another is just as magical (if not more in some ways) cos you get to see their response to it all...very funny sometimes.