If your girlfriend told you she had a one night stand with a female friend while you were away, how would you respond?
2006-12-04 00:49:43 · 13 answers · asked by shez_a_maneater 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
with a high five
2006-12-04 00:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcasmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as I'd like to have a bisexual girlfriend, I'd say in this case I'd have to break up with her.
If I start to get involved in a relationship that is "more than friends" an we "officially" start dating we would already have had discussions about what we hope the relationship would be. In those early discussions I would have made it clear that I will always be honest with her and though she may not like some of my answers, she will at least know that it will be an honest answer that reflects who I really am. I would have also told her that I'd want her to always be honest with me, even if she doesn't think I'd like her answers, because I want to really get to know her. Relationships only work when both involved know each other, and the relationship fails when one or both hides who they truly are.
We would have discussed our past relationships, I definitely would have asked if she ever had sex with another woman, and even if she said "no" I would ask her if she had any desire to experiment with women. Even if she said "no" to that I would have told her to always be honest and to tell me if she started to desire experimenting with women. I would have also added that there's a good chance I would allow her to experiment as long as I knew about every encounter and she asked permission first. ...It's not cheating if I give her permission.
I understand perfectly well that I don't have the right body or behavior to satisfy her desires for women. If she's desiring soft bodies, a more sympathetic emotional connection, boobs to suck on, and a p**** to eat, those are things only another woman can give her. So I'd be willing to let my girl experiment and satisfy those urges.
My girlfriend would have known that I would have been perfectly fine with her revealing her bisexual interest and that she still had a chance to experiment while we are together. If she really cared about me and respected me, she would never cheat on me with a woman.
So if she had a one night stand with a woman without asking me first it means she doesn't respect my feelings and opinion about how I would deal with her bisexuality. It would also mean she doesn't really care about me or our relationship. So, like I said I'd break up with her. I'm not going to be with someone that doesn't take me or our relationship seriously.
2006-12-04 01:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rukh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that it would have to do with what stage of a relationship I was in with the female in question. I would accept the fact that it was just a one time thing.
2006-12-04 01:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by Panzerpaul1955 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> Lol! Question for the guys... I didn't see this, sorry mate.
Given my girl's personality, id say, "Really? Cool!" I mean, she's the straight type. But if she's known to have slept around before me, then I'll ask if it is just a one time thing, and if it is over, if she says yes, then we'll kiss and make up. But if I find out that it isn't over after that time... then it's time to pack up my bags and to quote 9inches, "hit the highways."
2006-12-04 01:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A high five, a request to see any pictures they took, questions about how good a time she had, stuff like that. You know, the same stuff I'd ask my wife or boyfriend if one of them mentioned it.
2006-12-04 03:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider it cheating, whether the lover was a female or male.
2006-12-04 00:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lord L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will forgive her but she has to promise me the she will do that in front of me next time
2006-12-04 01:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be ok with that once she is not going to leave me over it.
2006-12-04 00:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by anything goes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very leftout, and request that she do it again with me.
2006-12-04 01:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by Takeniteasy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be made as hell that I was'nt there.
2006-12-04 03:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by chunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋