According to his theory, know as the hierarchy of needs, one must be loved by others before one can have self esteem. Dd he get things backwards? Don't you need to have self confidence first before others will take you seriously?
2006-12-04 00:33:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When I say "others", I mean family, as well as others.
2006-12-04 00:38:17 · update #1
i believe he is speaking of the love from family not relationship love.
2006-12-04 00:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Well I think he is right. I mean maybe your thinking as an adult but you develop self esteem and confidence as a child, so you get love from your parents to fuel that emotional development. I would imagine people with low self confidence can trace it right back to childhood, and a lack of parental love or care. So if your a confident adult you would have most likely have been a confident child. Therefore you would no longer have a real need for the love of others to build your self esteem. If you think about it most adults do seem to feel the need to be in a relationship, whereas really a fully rounded adult shouldnt really feel this need. So I guess most adults just aint fully developed emotionally. I can understand a need for friendships but the constant need to be in a relationship is a sighn of low self esteem, in my opinion.
2006-12-04 08:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by james l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not aprofessional psychologist, but I am a professional performer and instructor/coach of other performers so I feel that I have a bit of insight in the matter. I understand what Abraham Maslow is saying: knowing that you are esteemed, admired, accepted, loved, desired by others will make you feel better and more confident in yourself. But, by my own experience, it is usually necessary to have a certain degree of self confidence and self esteem before you can get out that and "win friends and influence people."
2006-12-04 08:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. Here is a link to a simplified Maslow theory. It may help explain, but I still think that you have a great point.
http://honolulu.hawaii.edu/intranet/committees/FacDevCom/guidebk/teachtip/maslow.htm
2006-12-04 09:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by Henpecked 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interesting perspective. Yes, I agree with you. Self esteem generate by others would make you solely dependent on their perspective. Self confidence may not make others take you seriously but it doesn't place you at their mercy either.
2006-12-04 08:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that Maslow as always hungry
2006-12-04 10:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jomtien C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋