My family and friends say me and my husband spoil our kids. Yes, They have alot of stuff, but i am not sure that they are spoiled. Maybe they are, We get them alot of stuff for there birthday and Christmas. I have 3 sons. 12 year old twins and a 14 year old. My 12 year old twins have a computer in there room. Both have an ipod. A tv in there room. My 14 year old has a laptop, an ipod, and a tv in his room. All 3 of them have there own cell phone, and camera. But they're not spoiled brats or anything. My husband makes money, so we can afford all of this stuff. We get it for them so they will be happy. We are thinking about getting them a chihuahua, because my husband is allergic to dogs, and chihuahua's dont have much hair. But is it bad to spoil your kids?
2006-12-04 00:24:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
So long as you aren't ignoring your children and giving them material items in place of love.
Do your children 'expect' things, or 'demand' things? Break or mistreat the things? Act as though they are entitled to things? Brag to their friends that they can get what ever they want? If yes, then they are spoiled.
Do they earn things, do they value what they are given? Are they thankful, appreciative? Do they care for the items and treat them with respect? Do they treat you and others with respect? Are they kind, caring? Do they realize that not everyone gets these things? If yes, then no they probably aren't spoiled.
NOW- as a word of caution, computers should NEVER, EVER, EVER be allowed in a child's room. They should always be in the common area of the house so that you can monitor what they are doing online. No matter how much you trust that they "know better", it is TOO dangerous. Parents should be checking the computers of their children daily, and not just a perfunctory check, a thorough check. Kids know more about computers than we give them credit for, and they can hide what they don't want us to see.
2006-12-04 00:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like they have a lot for kids their age. Do they work for this stuff? If they get good grades, clean up around the house, do household chores and behave well, than they deserve nice things. If they do nothing for this stuff, they just may develop the attitude that some people I know developed from "having a lot of nice things". They feel like ever one is "suppose to get them what they want". Make your kids do house work and they should not get to keep these things unless they are A and B students. My 7 yr old daughter has a TV, computer, radio in her room. She also has a cell phone. People tell me that I she is spoiled, but I don't think so. Since she has been in school she has never gotten anything but straight A's and always gets on honor roll, every marking period! She is also very involved in church, well behaved, cleans up around the house, does chores, so she works for the nice things she has. So like I said make sure they work for what they have. So they get it instilled in their heads that you have to work for what you want, nothing is free!
2006-12-04 00:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a lot of stuff you've gotten for them. As far as them being spoiled, i would say "materially" .. yes...."love" from you and your husband no. There's no such thing as spoiling your child with too much love. But in turn though, how do your kids act around you, your family and friends? That's something you should look into. And if you feel that your children are somewhat spoiled "materially" then teach them the compation of giving to those who can't afford the things you and your husband can. It is in fact the "holidays"
2006-12-04 00:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by dragonlady042 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not at all hun , they are your kids , you buy them what you want not what people tell you , thats 1 of the joys of having kids to spoil , i know i do , i have 1 son 9 and a baby on the way and hes spoilt too tv dvd cell phone computer , and 3 weeks ago we bought him a little minature yorkshire terrier puppy , the way i look at it is if u can afford it , give it them i do , u may find some friends are slightly envious if they can't do the same ;-) take no notice and do as you feel not what others say
2006-12-04 00:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your children are 12 and 14?
My four year old has her own room, a queen size bed, takes a very expensive trip to the mall at least twice a month, has her own dog; is getting a barbie convertible, a talking Dora kitchen, a fish tank, and a .22 for Christmas; calls her grandpa to tell him what she wants for supper (and gets it), has real makeup, and a practically bottomless bank account.
She's polite, well behaved, has manners, and is helpful.
Spoil away. They're your kids. If you can afford it, do it. And chihuahua's are good dogs. My mom has two.
BTW, my four year old is also getting her own cell phone (a Firefly, so she can call me while she's at her dad's.)
2006-12-04 00:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you are not spoiling them. Spoiling would be if you were in a store and your sons all where yelling they wanted something that you just did not want them to have and you gave it to them just to keep them quite. Or them asking for something that you can't afford and you going near broke to buy it for them. If they behave and are good kids there really is no reason they should not have what they want or need. Good luck and tell those people that think you are spoiling them to shove it. You know what you are doing .
2006-12-04 00:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it's bad to spoil them because what if something happen to your husband job and you can't afford to get them all of those name brand things and your kids will be mad at you because you can't give them what they want. there are nothing wrong with giving your kids stuff if you can afford it but sometime parents go over board with it and the kids will think they should have anything they ask for. what i dislike about it is when you go in a store and a kid is yelling and crying because they can't get what they wont and they will tell there parent i want that toy and i want it now that make me want to scream. i have kids and i give them what they need first then i get them what they wont if i can.
2006-12-04 00:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are your kids and you can do what you want with them! it is know ones business. as long as you teach them that everything is not handed to them when they are adults and they have to work for things, there shouldn't be a problem, a lot of people say the same thing about my kids, i think people just don't like it when you have more then them. now if your kids are like the ones on "my super sweet 16" on MTV, that is crazy, they are not giving their kids an advantage in life.
2006-12-05 05:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by tythentwins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say it does seem as though you're spoiling your children, but you obviously already know that.... I don't think a computer or tv in the room is appropiate for this young of an age, but that's just my style of parenting.. You do what you think is best for you kids, and don't worry about what anybody says!! Good luck to you
2006-12-04 00:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if my partner and i could afford what u can afford our children would have that stuff too.
i think if ur kids take u for granted n dont treat u well then maye they are spoiled.
but i think maybe the people around u just wish they could give the same things to their own kids!
in the end they are your children and if u want to spoil them then thats your decision.
2006-12-04 00:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by leese25 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋