What are the conflicts met in marriage and how do I resolve them?
Real asnwers please.
2006-12-04 00:11:15 · 7 answers · asked by Grand Phuba 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Compromise is the key to resolving any conflict in marriage. Compromise & empathy will do wonders!
2006-12-04 00:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Much of marriage, and any relationship, is compromise. Conflicts over money can be some of the most detrimental, as can conflicts over child rearing and religion. It's imporant to know where you both stand on these big ticket issues before you get married. Too late, you're already married? Meet with a marriage counselor and go over these topics and others that he or she suggests. Your best shot at a happy marriage is to have respect and patience for your partner. If you both have and respect and patience for one another, you will go far. Love is important, but when we're talking about how well a marriage functions, love just isn't the most important thing, as counter-culture that may seem in many Western societies. But remember this much - if you are passionate about your partner when it comes to love, then your arguments will probably be passionate. It's ok, just keep them under control and seek outside assistance from a counselor if it seems like it might be getting out of hand. Good luck!
2006-12-04 08:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a marriage is a full time job. many conflicts are faced in a marriage it is not how many conflicts but truthfully how we handle them. The best way to do so is to keep one thing in mind.. communication. talk talk and talk some more. as long as you are willing to talk to one another on an adult mature level most conflicts can be worked out. Sometimes though silence is a good thing too but must be done with tact. another words if your spouse feels like talking things out but you are not ready or dont feel like it , just respectfully say so.. for example..."honey can we talk about this some other time?" believe me, if marriage was just a piece of cake, it wouldnt be worth it. i have been married almost 13 yearsand it has been hard. Just do as i suggested and be willing to have open lines of communication. and also, try asd hard as you can to be sure those issues get resolved before bed.. anger is an unpleasant bedfellow. So try not to let the sun go down on your anger. another good thing to remember anger is just one letter short of danger... we are all people and by nature we are going to conflict... but love can conquer anything. good luck.
2006-12-04 08:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by private n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's about compromise. But a lot of people THINK they are compromising when in fact their spouse is not being clear what they want. So, NOBODY gets what they want.
Communication must be total. This is not easy and causes people to fight a lot at the beginning. BUT in order to truly love someone, understand them, make and keep them happy, you must know who they really are, what they really think, what they really want. If you don't know, you can't make it happen. If you don't tell them what you want, don't expect to get it.
I think most conflicts arise from the idea that each one is putting in and not getting out (i.e. I have to do all the housework, I don't get to do ____ etc). Or people realize that their lives didn't turn out like they dreamed and they blame their spouse for getting in the way.
Simple - communicate and understand that people are responsible for their own lives and how they turn out. It can be tough but it can happen.
2006-12-04 09:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be endless conflicts in marriage,... over money, sex, children, chores,.... even down to what to have for dinner. They can be serious or superficial... and compromise and open communication is the only way to resolve anything in marriage.
2006-12-04 08:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and the hardest subtle conflict is cultural communication.. an example i grew up in a real conservative state
we were taught as men not to complain not to cry not to complement flatter ect very reserved my wife grew up in a mixed family very liberal and our cultural conflict has a way of tripping us up when were not looking. reacting to whats unsaid without thinking about it Hurting each other without meaning to
so Pay attention to your own programming to your wife's dont react blindly.Chose to act in accordance with your heart not the stumbling of our minds Learn each other and help them learn about themselves and for me hardest of all learn yourself
good luck
just me
2006-12-04 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by benbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's all about compromise!
2006-12-04 08:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by celia3018 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋