she goes on and on about it. Then she talks about the person she has done the good turn for. I shudder to think what she says about me. Also when I try to do her a good turn she does not want to know. I am confused and it is worrying me.
I think I would rather say goodbye than listen to her running other folk down.
How do you see it.
By the way she has done good turns for me and I will always be eternally grateful. But everything has to be done on her terms.
2006-12-04 00:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your both right. I have tried, but she still keeps talking about other people and tells me all their business.
2006-12-04 00:13:19 · update #1
THE BEST THING
WOULD BE TO JUST IGNORE HER
2006-12-04 00:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know one little piece of maggot just like your friend who thinks that the world revolves around them and that we are all only here because of them.
It doesn't really matter what you do or say this person will only, EVER, say good things about themselves and boast about themselves, even if someone else did it they will claim the credit.
Basically, the guy I know is a midget and I put him singing his own prasies down to the fact that he is so short, and has a small d*ck. He thinks that by him doing this and bigging himself up hides the fact that is is so short, inept, incompetent and an a*s wipe, which doesn't cos it just highlights it!!!
Like you I have also done this brown nosing sh*t shovellor some good turns, some which his own family would never do for him and he definately wouldn't do for anyone else.
Your friend sounds just like this maggot and I think that she may be doing it because she is low on self esteem and has little, if any, self confidence.
You need to take her to a side room, or a dark alley, and B*TCH SLAP her. If this doesn't work then do it a few more times. If she still doesn't change then you need to disown her. Chances are that she will realise that only you were willing to put up with her crap and will come back to you with a grovelling apology.
2006-12-04 02:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard question piggy. It might be that this person wants to show you she's helping others to try and impress you. She might not really be able to cope with relationships in the way that you do, and so in her helping she is also confused about the closeness and vulnerability of the other person. WHO KNOWS? I have a person whom I have to help . And she's always telling me off. I have to bite the bullet and do it anyway even if its hard, cos actually shes me friend. However I do moan about her when she tells me off, its like venting feelings. So perhaps your friend sees you as a vent. It doesn't always mean she's going to do the same to you. We all have a moan about others from time to time, even when we love them. Terms have to be negotiated and you can't do that unless you know the person well enough for them to trust you. She sounds complex. Perhaps she feels she has to earn peoples love rather than just accept people will love her for who she is. She might have some sort of self protection thing going on, like a stealth mode force field. >>>>>>>>> love love love eeeeeeeeeeek push away push away didn't like her anyway Mrs knickerbater exploaded.
2006-12-04 02:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously got control issues, and she'll have to work through them on her own. You could point them out to her, tell her that you're worried, and hope she listens. If not, in the end, she'll only hurt herself. Nobody will put up with her, and she'll be completely alone. Tell her that.
2006-12-04 00:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've learnt from hard experience those who compliment are the most untrustworthy. old boy i used to work with kept saying to me "your a brilliant worker son you really are" then he would say i've told the bosses just how good you are .i didnt believe him anyway i was proved right when i caught him red handed calling me a useless bastard to one of the other employees. people who need to be liked are'nt worth the trouble.
2006-12-04 01:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems self centered to me and the issue has to be about her and her good turns, she is slagging people off coz she thinks it's ok to do that coz she has helped them....if she is running her mouth off about the people she helps then maybe you should find another friend...because if she is doing this to them...whats she doing to you behind your back?...she is after praise every time she does something to help someone, like they have to owe her something..but is not willing to be helped by you or them coz she thinks he can do things for herself...everyone needs help at some point in their lives, and yes she may slag you off to people sayng that your interfering...i HAD a mate like her once, and believe me i soon saw her true colours when i confronted her....she turned into a right b!tch, like a raging loony...find a new mate hun...you don't need her in your life if she is making you miserable....
2006-12-04 00:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe people should do things because they want to do them; not because they want an award! While most people will talk about things they do, going into it over & over again is too much! I'd just be honest with her. What do you really have to loose?!
2006-12-04 00:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY and talk to her good friends are hard to fined
2006-12-04 00:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by debbie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one, cant u just grin and bear it or see her a bit less?
2006-12-04 00:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by beth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just have a word wit your friend
2006-12-04 00:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋