we got married last year and i brought my daughter into that marriage and in August this year our son os born. But since that day he's not doing anything with us anymore.going to work, working home thats what counts for him now. I'm at home all the time with the baby and my daughter and when he's home he's not even joyning us for dinner or a nice evening or something like that. sometimes i thought about breaking it up and starting new but then... PLEASE HELP ME....
2006-12-03 23:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by silket23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i already talked to him about that and he promised me to change for us, i keep myself interesting for him, always trying to look good -even it was a busy day and all that..
2006-12-04 00:02:12 · update #1
Sounds as if he has alot on his mind. I have found that men will throw their self into work when they feel overwhelmed in a relationship. Counseling is a option but he has to be willing not pressured.
2006-12-04 00:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His attention is on other things. When you say he is at work and home I assume his time is spent in those places. He may be working hard to provide a better life for his family. Because I am a man and am working as much as I can, I dont have a lot of quality tome to give to my family. Thank God my wife supports me. We too have talked but I know without money alot of things can not get done.
2006-12-04 10:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you married him just too soon. Maybe he became disappointed with the marriage. Maybe you are not taking proper care of yourself to keep him interested. There are just so many maybe's. The best way would be to ask him to be totally honest with you and tell you how he feels. You'll be able to ascertain his thoughts through his words and body language. Marriage is something worth taking your time to be sure before you dissolve it. This step should be taken only as last resort. May God bring you happiness.
2006-12-04 07:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to him and find out what the problem is. Maybe the problem is you. Are you not spending too much time with the children and not giving him enough time. Is it the baby, maybe you had your baby too early into the marriage and he is struggling to accept this big family all of a sudden. I am sure it is to do with your children. I hope he is not having an affair.
2006-12-04 08:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage a gift from God, sure you've been through it before and now you know how easy it is to start again with another man, cause you obviously got a child from another man, stick with it and work things out, if you don't talk about it, it won't get sorted out, THINK ABOUT IT. do you really want to start again with another man, then have another child with that man, the complications are mind blowing. Ask God for help, he is there.
2006-12-04 08:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by chilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling
2006-12-04 07:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by benbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's worried that he won't be able to financially support you and your children the way he would like to. talk to him about it. if that is the problem, maybe you should consider getting a part time job to help out.
2006-12-04 08:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him find out whats going on. Explain to him how you feel and go from there.
2006-12-04 07:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Neev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound wrong, but get a boyfriend. Your husband is far from what a husband/father should be, so don't torture yourself.
2006-12-04 07:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋