I have accepted lot of things in her which I think is absolutely normal in a relationship as we r suppose to do that coz thats what love is all about. Compromise is also a part of the game. So, if I m expecting the same, am I wrong ?? The problem is that my tone gets a little high at times, though u cant say that I yell but its a bit higher & sounds aggressive. Instead of working out on this together with me( If not acceptable ), she started shouting on me in double the voice I use to. She says this is the best way coz she has born & brought up like this that if someone yells on u then yell at him/her at double the voice he/she has.According to her she is trying from last one year (without me knowing this) & now she just cannot bare this anymore & said that she can live without me. The problem is that I cannot.Is she doing right ??
2006-12-03 23:22:34 · 7 answers · asked by luckykom83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she can leave you over something like that and not trust you enough to talk to you about it when the problem began then you may very well be better off without her.
2006-12-03 23:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yelling at each other will not solve anything.. maybe try using a normal tone of voice with her and maybe she wont yell... I have this same problem, when someone yells at me then i yell back.. but if someone sits down and talks to me then i just talk normal. But when she talks to you normal, make sure your listening, because I know when I dont think someone is listening it turns into a yelling match again.. and I'm sure you dont want that.. Good Luck!
2006-12-04 07:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not doing this in anger ,and your tone is just high then I see no reason why she would act this way .now I'm kinda funny to I dint want no man to raise his voice in anger at me ,but I give the same respect back ,sorry but it sounds like she just wants out .!unless you are being hateful with your tone of voice .wishing you the best .
2006-12-04 07:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant say that i blame her. you have been using a different tone as you call it to her for a year,and you say that this is something you should work on together. well the only one that can decide to use a different tone or not would be you.so if this is causing her to yell back at you and you don't like it then i suggest that before you speak think about your tone, so that she does not yell back.
2006-12-04 07:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are the man... learn not to act like her by screeming, we ladies never want to lose an argument so u are safer being the one to give up...
Be the man to run the relationship... if u cant control simple things like a mare argument in a relationship, then how do intend to keep a marriage together?
2006-12-04 07:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the yelling an screaming...yes , she is doing right. you need to work out issues without the yelling. no matter who was raised that way or not. she is just thinking things thru before she makes a bigger comminment.
2006-12-04 07:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but i'm sure that u speaking loudly is not the complete story...there is more to it that u havent mentioned...
shee said she is trying for a year...
i dun think that any marriage should end...but then i dunno how urz is...
all the best...
2006-12-04 11:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by happinezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋