Do you think that a husband should read a wife's email or regular mail?

Question

My husband recently informed me that he had placed some sort of spy ware on our computer and had been reading my emails and reading everything that I write on this site. I do not write anything to anyone that is inapproprate. However, it's offensive to me that he does not allow me to do anything without watching me. I am a faithful loving wife. Is this how all men treat there wives?

Answer 1

you have a total right to privacy and you should ask him how he would feel if you tapped his phone.
control freaks think they have a right of censor over they wives - and usually react very badly to the shoe on the other foot.
No - not all men treat their partners this way - most treat them with trust and respect.
you need to talk to him about this.

ps - I doubt it is spyware - he is probably accessing your history pages - or you can easily get into someone elses questions and answers if you know just one q or a they have done.

Answer 2

I know what you are going through.. Every time my fiance sees on the computer he says "Whats that, what are you doing, who's that?" Then if he sees the page change, it those questions all over again. He doesn't know much about computers or he would put something on here to spy on me, even though there is nothing to find. I think these men of ours are insecure! Why? I don't know. I have been with my fiance for 7 yrs, and never cheated on him.. I cant say the same for him, and I feel that is why is the way he is.. I'm not saying that your husband has or is cheating... I just think that is why mine acts the way he does.. When it all comes down to it, they are insecure or they wouldn't worry... I would have a big talk with him, because it sounds like he not only like this with the computer, but others ways also.. Maybe you guys should see a counselor to see why he does what he does.. Good luck hun....

Answer 3

I wished I had been smart enough to check my husband e-mail and check for other names he might have been using. After 9 years of a wonderful marriage so I thought. 9/11 happened he kept same that he want to go back unto the gulf war well dummy me thought he was just wanting to help America WRONG. He had been iming and email girls in the Philippines. He was to old to get back in the military so he took a job overseas. Still I knew nothing he would write and send cards and tell me how much he loved me and I was him world. To be his world it was 3 months before he was return home and my granddaughter birthday party that was in from out of state. He call and tell me that he was in love with 2 women in the Philippines and did not know which one he wanted but he did know that he wanted to divorce me. What a blow I was crushed. Never in a million years would I have thought that would happen,but it did. Plus I was hurt from a job injury at work. Here I was hurt alone and starting over blind sided. Know this is not going to happen to all women and men but beware it can happen. I did to me

Answer 4

It's a pity that your husband appears not to trust you. Not all men are like that though. It is very wrong for a spouse not to respect the partner's right to some privacy. Moreover, it is looking for trouble prying too much into one's partner's privacy. Some facts had better not be known.

Answer 5

There is alot of men out there that do that because they dont have trust, and the thing is to have a relationship youve got to have trust without it all there is going to be is problems because of over reacting as in how your husband is doing. If he loves you he needs to show it by trusting you and not going behind your back, he could atleast just asked what you have been sending and things instead of investigating it himself.

Answer 6

No, not ALL men treat their wives this way. I think it is completely inappropriate though...unless you have given your husband a reason not to trust you. When you are married you still deserve some privacy, and it sure as hell would piss me off if my husband was snooping around in my business. I'm sure your husband would be irate if you did that to him...or try it and see how he feels!!!!

Answer 7

My husband does not read my emails, but as the head of our household, he has that right if he wants to or feels he needs to. He did finally set up a Yahoo 360 at my request and at the top he said the purpose was to "keep an eye on Leah", but that was pretty tongue in cheek as he's probably only been on it three or four times. I occasionally blog about very personal things, so if he wants to keep an eye on it, of course he's welcome. (You're welcome as well! Check out my Yahoo 360!)

Answer 8

i think if there is trust there is no reason to read your spouses emails or mail. I mean most things are shared anyways when your married you rarely get mail delivered to you alone once your married. But emails i am not sure why unless there is a trust issue

Answer 9

there are several possibilities, first he cares about you so much that he's afraid you cheat on him so he spy on you, secondly, he simply doesn't respect your privacy, and third he thinks he's your husband so he can read your emails. i think you better find out what motive behind your husband's move. and it all depends on you whether you think it's ok to let your husband to read your emails, some couples do share the same email account.

Answer 10

Men should not treat their wives like that. Your husband obviosly feels threatend for some reason.. and if not that then you have yourself one controlling hubby hun. But, that is an invasion of privacy