i am 23, i am getting married in 24 days, my woud be wife is great, i got a good job, my parents are great, my sister is great, i got enough money, my in-laws are great, i have got everything in life, but at the moment i am staying alone & all i wanna do is drink & drink & drink. what u think about this?
2006-12-03 22:29:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well seems to me that you got everything going very well for you. Keep up the good work, that is something that you should charish very highly of. If you only drinking because you are upset or angry then you really should watch out how much you drink considering you will be impaired and could do something dangerous to yourself or others. If your only drinking because you believe there is nothing better to do at the time then i guess that is fine as long as your not bothering anyone or harming yourself.
2006-12-03 22:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel that everything is to great in your life. So you need to do one bad thing, before you get married.
Alcoholism is a terrible thing. It affects ones thoughts and actions to extremes. Don't get to that state. Do you love the girl you are gonna marry? This is an awful start for the two of you.
Try to talk to a councelor, or a relative who has been married for a long time. Someone you trust. See what is really up with your self. Be honest, and get help soon.
Theres is nothing wrong with a little celebrating, but over indulgence of anything, is not good for you in the long run.
2006-12-04 06:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's normal because I don't drink and I don't understand the "fun" or "take me away from reality" feeling that some people get when drinking. Do you feel BETTER about your life and upcoming situation when you are drinking? Does your drinking make you progressively feel like a better or stronger person? My view is (and again I don't drink so maybe this is bad advice) continue drinking if you really DO feel BETTER about your life while drunk, but if it makes you feel no better then isn't it just a waste of time and money? Is the temporary escape/high you feel worth it all in the end? Good luck.
2006-12-04 07:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal, but maybe with your big event coming up it is understandable.
Cut back on the drinking, it really sounds like what you need to do is talk to someone, friends/family, about what thoughts are going through your head.
Drink has never given anyone the answer to a problem, but it sure as hell has created some more!
All the best.
2006-12-04 09:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though everything in your life is 'great', u can still suffer from mild depression, or a feeling of emptiness in your life...... i don't think it is that normal to want to 'drink and drink and drink' , especially if u are doing this alone.... i think u need to do some serious thinking, and try to figure out why u feel this way...... isn't there anything u can do that'll take your mind off wanting to drink ? when i gave up smoking i tried my best to keep myself busy, so i got on with re-decorating my house, and if i got lonely, i went online and spoke to people in the yahoo chatrooms...... please, don't let it get out of hand... my ex was an alcoholic, so i've seen just how much damage alcohol can do if u let it take over your life..... all his money went on alcohol, and his health was damaged by it.... and once u become addicted, it's really difficult to get over it.... u have so many good things in your life. don't let alcohol ruin them.
2006-12-04 06:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be its nerves, Philip? Perhaps some strange feelings come to the surface at times, like anxiety, excitement, happiness ... and these feelings may frighten you? Does that sound about right? When we're not used to feel our feelings and their intensity, then that can be scary or plain odd. With alcohol, we can drown them; basically numb them. Temporarily they go away, but the day after is awful and they're back. Also, watch out, because alcohol is actually a depressant. If you have any tendency towards depression, then please watch out! May be do something more constructive and healthy when you feel like drinking?! Like, going for a run! Exercising is fab for nerves! Best of luck and all the very best! Gini.
2006-12-04 06:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably feeling the stressed out ,your about to be married and this is your way of relaxing ,have a word with your future wife and tell her about what your feeling and maybe you could share a drink she is probably as stressed as you and you need to be honest with each other from the start .What happens if you can't stop drinking after you get married.
2006-12-04 06:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you are referring to alcohol.
Suggest that you contact AA (They are non-judgemental and will give you support) The only criteria is that you do not want to get hooked on booze.
Don't let any chemical comfort ruin what sounds like a potentially great marriage.
2006-12-04 06:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your drinking out of boredom, maybe you need to struggle in life just a bit, i was on a binge for nearly a year. out of it i got to use up my life savings ill health and as much self respect as a murderer. it aint a pretty place to be. quit while your young. i was 34 and could barely walk to the top of the street.
2006-12-04 10:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. u r suffering from anxiety.
try to relax and get out more where u will not be tempted to drink.
alcohol is VERY addictive. u must break the circle soon as poss.
i know.
good luck and don't drink too much after the wedding.
well, o.k. just this once !!!!!
2006-12-04 06:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋