and telling women that he wants to be with them cos he loves them, when I asked him about it he just said hes only do it for a wind up and it means nothing cos its me he loves...should I believe him, or is him sending intimate emails to other girls still classed as cheating? what do you think.... he has even been on this site and been emailing a girl and asking questions whether he should go move to be with her. Is he a cheat or just fantasy?
2006-12-03 22:18:54 · 24 answers · asked by Leah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh what a pickle! Personally I think these sites are dangerous, especially for men who are in relationships and their are lonely women who sit at thier computer and tell a guy what they want to hear. Have you read the emails he has been sending and how does he feel that you have been reading them. Personally I think if he is tellin women that he loves them and wants to be with them it isn't cheating but it is decietful and I don't think I could be with anyone like that.
Have you tried to sit down and talk to him about this? perhaps he isnt aware that it bothers you so much. As for it being "a wind up" perhaps his time would be better served spending time with you and making your relationship better than being a computer telling other women that he wants to move away and be with them. Realistically this is probably never going to happen, however if it is making you feel uncomfortable or suspiscious then its not a good thing.
My advice would be to sit down with him and explain how you feel, that you dont like him doing it and that you would like to spend more time together. Otherwise he will have to choose between you and the computer. It sounds harsh but you need to be with someone who loves and respects u, not someone who gets his kicks from talking to women on the net. I wish you all the luck in the world! I hope it works out for you xxx
2006-12-03 22:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by SARA H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont tell you the truth. You need to catch him out. This recently happened to a good friend of mine.
Heres an idea. Why dont you get all his dating site details i.e his online name and which dating site he is going on. Then set up your own profile but obviously not as yourself. Make everything up. Then send him a message and flirt with him etc. If he responds in a flirty and intimate way, you know he was lying to you. Then get rid of him because no woman deserves to be treated like dirt.
Good Luck.
2006-12-03 22:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Amy_Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wont inform you the reality. you opt for to snatch him out. This proper now exceeded off to a reliable pal of mine. Heres an theory. Why dont you get all his courting internet web site archives i.e his on-line call and which courting internet web site he is going on. Then set up your man or woman profile yet for sure no longer as your self. Make each and each thing up. Then provide him a message and flirt with him etc. If he responds in a flirty and intimate way, you comprehend he grew to change into mendacity to you. Then eliminate him because no woman advantages to be dealt with like airborne dirt and mud. good fulfillment.
2016-11-23 15:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by rengifo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's doing it because he likes the attention, and likes to think that other women find him attractive.... but still, it's no excuse for treating u like this. i would sit him down and explain to him just how much this is hurting you. if it 'means nothing to him' then he shouldn't have any problems in giving it up...... if he can't give it up then i think u seriously need to think about where this relationship is going.... because although this is all purely fantasy at the moment, it wouldn't surprise me if temptation get the better of him eventually...... u could also try going to see a relationship counsellor. Relate offer help on marriage problems... i'm sure they will have a website or number in the local telephone directory..... good luck, hopefully he just needs to know how much this is upsetting u, and that u won't stand for it anymore.
2006-12-03 22:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, listen up. when he gets on the computer, you need to be stealthy and try to get an angle on the computer screen. if you see him doing that, just walk away for a bit till he gets off.
after he gets off, go up to your computer and push ctrl-h. thats different if you have an Apple or Mac, i think.
ctrl h will open up all the websites that that computer has visited. however, you can clear the history, so keep an eye out for that.
if you find the dating sites in your computer's history, then you need to talk to him about it, and tell him you'll leave if he doesnt stop, even if he is doing it for laughs. thats immature anyway, because if hes willing to mess with girls' minds, i wouldnt trust him anyway.
2006-12-03 22:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - He's got no sense and he's an arsehole. If he was happy and satisfied with you he'd have no need to email other girls or waste time with dating sites. Sounds like he's game for anyone and doesn't care about you at all. Sorry but there are plenty of real guys out there who would care about you.
2006-12-03 22:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Alcopops 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
definitely still classed as cheating in my book..
he needs the kick
and u need to give him the boot!
what difference would it make to u if he told u straight out, would that be being honest and would u accept him back with open arms?
i'd walk pet, sorry to have to be so hard, but he's playing around with other people's feelings, why shouldn't he be doing it with yours???
good luck.. :=)
2006-12-04 01:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he needs to sort his head out to me. Not a cheat, not a fantasy. Just a case of wanting your cake and eating it. Only the cake he got at the mo obviously ain't good enough for him ....
2006-12-03 22:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to http://www.womansavers.com and click the "Catch a Cheater" section under the "Read" category. It is full of great tips on how to catch a cheater including tips on computer keystroke loggers, how to place a fake ad on a dating site, etc...
Good luck.
2006-12-05 21:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by stacyladylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i found out my partner had been emailing that to other women i would tell him to do one!!...even if it is just fantasy it's not very nice that he wants to move to be with someone else, find yourself someone who will appreciate you and not think of going off with other girls
2006-12-03 22:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by mumble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋