im in love with a lady who is 10 years older than me. she is single, ummaried. and i wold like to marry her. now she is afraid this age difference and she started thinking about the society. what would be the possible threatens we have to face? can all of you guide me? i would like to know what can be the maximum age difference between partners if the woman is older than her partner?
2006-12-03 21:54:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im in love with a lady who is 10 years older than me. she is single, ummaried. and i wold like to marry her. now she is afraid this age difference and she started thinking about the society. what would be the possible threatens we have to face? can all of you guide me? i would like to know what can be the maximum age difference between partners if the woman is older than her partner? she is 39 and im 28. and in an indian, she is a chinese.
2006-12-03 23:22:06 · update #1
It depends some on how old you both are NOW. If you are 20 and she is 30, you have some growing up to do yet...and if I were her, I wouldn't think of marriage for at least 5 years.
But...if you are over 25...then the difference is minor. Add in the simple fact that women outlive men anyway, so you could grow old together.
There are no hard and fast rules, but once you are pretty much "grown up" (past age 25, on average) then it's a decision between equals. It's a medical fact that the brain does not finish growing and developing until about age 23 for a man, age 20 for a woman.
The only real threats are how concerned you are about what others think, and if others are so small minded that they feel this is a big deal...who cares what they think?
2006-12-03 22:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by roadlessgraveled 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had good relationships with 2 chics upto 30&34 years younger but they get a lot of pressure....usually only last 1-6 years......i did a 13 years with a ten year older woman it was pretty good relationship. Ageism is really a load of crap but so is most of our scared culture nowadays.I was called a paedophile by one evil father. Just peasant thinking i guess, popular nowadays.
2006-12-03 22:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by b-overit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no age limit, I have a friend who 10 years older than her hubby, She's 45 and hes 35..They have a pretty good relationship..Lots of common intrest
2006-12-03 22:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I can guess that ur from India....that's why you think about that s**t about society. As long as you are not doing anything wrong and you know that, go ahead. More than 10yrs might not look good in my opinion if the woman is older than you.
2006-12-03 22:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by shankd67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is "society" anyway? Are you going to let some vague concept of a disapproving public ruin your chance at happiness?
2006-12-03 21:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she looks like 10yrs older than you, then it can be a problem...coz ppl will probably think that she's your mom
2006-12-03 21:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Morena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no maximum as far as I know. It is best if love is there. Good luck.
2006-12-03 23:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is ok now, however as time goes by it will matter greatly.
2006-12-03 21:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no age limit!
2006-12-03 21:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋