Is it so bad i refuse to pay for them?
I HATE...when my friends expect me to pay for them...two friends in particular....they will purposely go to the movies with me and not bring money...I usually go with 2 friends to the movies....and there's always that one friend...that expects someone to pay for them... I'll only pay...if tehy're doing something for me...
After school when i have to go to the mall...I always take someone with me....if I didn't warn them ahead of time I'll give them a spear bus ticket or some bus fare... b/c i asked them to go with me last minute... my Mother always tells me..."Never pay for friends if they purposley...didn't bring money...or didn't bring enough of it enough of it"
2006-12-03 21:48:05 · 14 answers · asked by 1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
two of my friends do that....one is just selfish and doesn't want to spend her own money...they other is just broke...
2006-12-03 21:55:33 · update #1
I never pay for them...Mother taught me well
lol
2006-12-03 21:57:22 · update #2
Paying for friends is not bad... but should only be done with your own will & not forced by selfish friends. You can pay for your 'broke' friend if you feel like helping her out... but its not your responsibility .. so dont feel bad for not. Its time your friends learnt to pay for themselves.. give them a lesson, invite them somwhere and only carry with u the exact amount for yourself and tell them that you also dont have any extra. Lets see what they will do....Next time they ll always make sure they have thier own. Good luck.
2006-12-03 22:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by butty-real-tiuos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you have set yourself up to be used. The next time someone shows up at the movies without money, say "oh, too bad, I'll let you know how it ends" and buy your own ticket and see the movie. People can't use you if you don't allow yourself to be used.
2006-12-03 21:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helping friends out is a good thing ..as you say ..when you need them their there ..like going to the mall to help you out ..also many other things they do to help with..
Some friends may not be so fortunate like you to have money to spend on the moves and other pastime events ..
but they will gladly help you out when you need help
when you ask a friend to company you to the mall ..by paying their bus ticket ..dose not mean you repaid them for the favour ..
2006-12-03 22:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money breeds bad blood. I recommend being honest and telling your friends when you organise the outing, that you cannot afford to pay for them. If you really need them to go tell them you will pay if they pay next time or that you can lend them the cost of the outing. Next time remind them that they are paying.
Sometimes I find it better to make a joke about it so that they don't feel offended. But they need to know that you mean it.
2006-12-03 21:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by curly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your mother. These people are not friends if they only use you to go places or get things for them. Why not try another set of friends? Where do you get your money? If it's given to you by your parents, you will appreciate it more if you earn it. Then you won't be so likely to give it away.
2006-12-03 21:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by carolinabelle1947 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let people take advantage of you or use you even if they are your friends. Dont worry sweetie you are not alone alot of us do it because we are nice people. Seriously I had to stand my ground with friends who have done it to me in the end I realised they werent worth it, these days all my money goes on myself and I can always afford what I want now. So whenever I have to say no to somebody I think of the reward I can give myself later ......
2006-12-03 21:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by bossw2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Mama baby!! She's right!! Find REAL friends!! Next time you go to the movies.....Buy your ticket, and enjoy the show....by yourself. THAT should give them the message. You sound too sweet to tell them to **** off.....which is what you should do. You're a nice person....nice people get taken advantage of by NOT SO NICE people!!! Spot them!!! THEN. DUMP THEM!!!
2006-12-03 21:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to mom!
As far as when you ask them or they are doing something for you, that is cool.
But unless you like supporting your friends, I would cut it out real fast.
If they still hang around (w/their own money) then they are your friends. If they don't, they were enjoying your "gravy train".
2006-12-03 21:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you do find few leeches around but then you have to be careful with the cirle of friends you ove around. Once you start spending for your friends they tend to take you for granted since you need them around.
Look back and see if you really need those friends who expect you to spend for you
2006-12-03 21:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them; they're not mediums to predict how you feel. Or more likely, they understand it quite well, but this way is more convenient for them. And you can't call these friends, because friends usually share
;))
2006-12-03 22:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋