2006-12-03 21:31:41 · 23 answers · asked by itz_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Such a short question for what could be a very long reply from us out here that dont know you.Please just go ask him and sort it out with him before its too late.
2006-12-03 21:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you've just had the rug pulled out from under you. What started as an idyllic relationship has done an about face, and you are left trying to figure out what went wrong. Your partner is not doing a very effective job of explaining himself to you and all your attempts at communication are rejected. Even letters are left unread. What is so puzzling, according to your letter, is that this change seems to have happened overnight, after five years of bliss.
The painful reality is that you can't control your husband. No matter how hard you try, no matter how many tears you shed, the only thing you'll succeed in doing is to drive him further away. It's the law of The Pursuer and The Distancer. You chase -- he runs.
My advice to you is stop chasing; stop humiliating yourself by running after a man who for some reason is so wrapped up inside of himself that he is destroying the most meaningful relationship in his life. It's tragic, but you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Start to take care of yourself. Ask yourself what it is that you want for you and for your marriage. If you need help to cope with this difficult situation, find a suitable counselor to whom you can pour out your heart. Remember, you are only responsible for your own behavior.
I am quite certain that when you stop running after your husband, he'll begin to move toward you. Give him the space to work things out and if he doesn't, then maybe it's time for you to reconsider if he's the right guy for you.
Good luck,
2006-12-05 07:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take care of his likings. And you just recall what would have made him ignore you, if there is a answer good, but if you think there was nothing from yourside, then just write him an email and tell him you want to clear this out & tell him that he is everything for you, and then just last line that you love him & want to get out of the problem, but be clear & polite, & don't expect anything from him initially, just make him talk to you ,for a month, & then if you wnat to clear further then after 1 month begin once again but be careful that time also.
2006-12-04 05:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by JAMES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you work, but he does Im sure and no doubt has a lot on his mind. His rejecting you might also indicate that he himself was once rejected and probably you too. Rejection feeds on rejection. The way to get his attention is not to sulk but just to keep reassuring him that no matter what you will not reject him because of your love for him. Dont be in his face all the time either. Occupy yourself with things, and let him pursue you! Secondly give up the negative thoughts and dwell on positive things. Maybe you irritate your man by things you say, not intending to do so, but becuase he just seems so flammable. Just keep being nice to him. Treat him like a king and more than anything pray for him. Get the book by Suzie Ormarin called The praying wife. That book is excellent and when you pray for someone you find favour with that person. Thats why the bible tells us to pray for those who hate us!
I went through what you did and let me tell you how living by feelings and emotions can mess up everything. Feelings and emotions can lie to us. We need to choose to move above them and not to give in to them. That is the place where Satan has a field day with humans, specifically with negative feelings and emotions. Become accountable and stand up and be somebody. You can and you must. Do it for yourself. FInd your purpose and run with it. Check your talents and use them. God gave them to you for a reason.
Remember there are diffferent season in our lives - time for joy, time for crying, time for living, time for dying etc etc Take each season and decide what you can do to grow stronger and benefit from everything including the curved balls that life throws at you!
You can do it! Be strong honey!
2006-12-04 05:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has to tell you something important and you as a married couple sit down and talk to each other thats all it takes just a little bit of talking good luck.
2006-12-06 17:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by Minnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Synchronise your mind with ur hubby. Understand problems and react. You can influence to make love. Women are such a magnet no steel can surpass it. Best of luck
2006-12-04 05:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by raj30gk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
When you say he pushes you away that means he is using his physical strength against you. Don't tolerate this it can become worst tomorrow. Please seek help from a marriage counsellor as soon as possible. Your husband needs help.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-04 05:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing called love. It is just understanding & adjustment. The way to a man's heart is through the stomach. Feed him well and keep him happy. He will in turn, keep u happy. Wish u all th best.
2006-12-04 05:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by 50+Brat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's through with you hon, and showing all the signs! Give him the big heave-ho! And find a nice guy who will love and cherish you always!
2006-12-04 05:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds something goes wrong, be patient, try to talk to him but don't push him, take it slowly until he trusts you and tells you what really bothers him. sounds like it'll take some time and effort
before you can improve your relation.
2006-12-04 05:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋