What was the hardest part of the divorce for you? Was it making the decision, or was it the practicalities? Would you do the same if you had it to do over again?
2006-12-03 21:25:42 · 14 answers · asked by Sugar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HI - wow . . .
My wife cheated 4 yrs ago; alcohol problem; 3 kids; finally divorced 6 months ago; she's still living in my house (judge says she must move out when other property is sold - pending a buyer); really no finality to the whole process.
The entire divorce (before, during and now) is the hardest part for me.
check www.divorcecare.org to find a support group. This will afford you the opportunity to hear others tell you what you can expect. The legal part is bad. Emotionally draining for everyone.
2006-12-03 21:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by SMichael 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part of getting divorced was the realization that it was over after 20 years of marriage! We tried so hard to keep things together, but the more we tried the more miserable we both were. Now that we are divorced (for 6 years now), I am happier than I ever was when I was married. I love the single life! I don't go out often, but just being alone and not having to worry about someone else (a partner) is fantastic! I have custody of the 2 children and would not have made it through this if it weren't for them! I would definitely do this all over again! It was the right decision for sure! If it weren't, I would not be this happy!
2006-12-04 00:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making the decision was the hardest for me...but once it made there is no turning back. would i do the same? I don't know...i don't like to look back and regret but rather i reflect on what i could have done better and maybe learn a few good lessons from that experience so that my future relationships will benefit
2006-12-04 01:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The process of divorce is stressful. The lawyers contributed greatly to that...milking as much money and drawing it out as long as possible with the same darn results in the end.
Divorcing the spouse was already in progress internally....letting go of the marriage was more difficult because when you get married you makes plans for the future, for your children...that was hard to overcome. Realizing your path, your future and your children's future is 'unseen' while going through the divorce...that's less stressful than an unloving marriage. Peace.
2006-12-03 21:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the decision was easy, making the move was hard, seeing the ex for the weekend visits for children was hard. But yes I would do it all over again. To think that I have ended up with an incredible person now is amazing, its been 10 years and I have never looked back. Good Luck
2006-12-03 21:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Bev J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it was the particulars.
I have been divorced twice while in the military. Hard to get things done while you are deployed most of the time! Would I do what again? Get another divorce?
If I had too, but there would be no more marriage for me.
Wish I never met the first two (Cheated on me while I was deployed, both of them!)
2006-12-03 21:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with the hurt and pain that my son suffers....it's really difficult and breaks my heart. Making the decision is also hard because sometimes it seems easier to stay in the marriage. The whole situation is ugly really but I'd make the same decision again because I was unhappy and he treated me like crap.
2006-12-04 06:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making the decision, 'cause I was really in love with my husband when I decided (against his will) to file for a divorce;...the day we got out of the tribunal, hand in hand, in tears, I felt as if someone had just torn off my soul from my chest..And, yes, I would do it again, 'cause as painful as it was, I had no other choice...
2006-12-03 21:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the hardest part of getting divorced for me was getting the lying two faced cheat to actually sign the bloody papers.
other than that it was easy.
2006-12-03 21:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by cheekkkychik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part was the fear. I was terrified of being a single parent. It turns out that I was a single parent all along I just didn't see it. I had to get out of that marriage, he was getting abusive toward me AND our children.
2006-12-04 14:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋