He calls it a right of passage? For all you moms out there whats your opinion about this, and would you support? What should I do
2006-12-03 21:01:30 · 21 answers · asked by ri00 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
tell your husband to grow up...
you don't live in a trailer park, if your son wants to go with his friends so be it but your husband wants to look a young tail and if you are not comfortable with it make him stay home and be a real man...
my dad never did this for me...then again that's why I am gay, seriously I have been to these clubs and it's a cheesey thrill...
if your boy wants to go with his friends let him be, make daddy stay home and help you around the house...it's obvious you don't like the idea and your husband should respect your wishes...
your a good mother for bringing this up...stick to your guns...
2006-12-03 21:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by joy ride 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I am a mom. I have also worked in adult clubs, as a waitress. From a mother's standpoint, I can see where you wouldn't want your son to be in the club. From a wiatress's standpoint, I have seen what goes on in the club. They'll announce that it's his birthday, get him on stage, and make a big fuss over him. They more than likely won't strip him and have their way with him, even if he does want them to!
If your husband has always been honest and faithful to you, I say let your husband have his fun. After all, you only turn 18 once!
2006-12-04 08:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so! It's important to teach our boys to respect women as people and not objects. Your son's "right of passage" should be more to do with what's important in life and making sex that important isn't healthy. I would kick my hubby's but if he wanted to do this.
If I were you I would put my foot down with my husband and let him know that you aren't okay with it. Sure your son may go off with his friends and do this since he is 18 but it's not a good example for a father to set for his son.
I would be pissed that my husband thought it was acceptable for him to go with or without my son.
Hey, why don't you really throw him off ask your him how he would feel if you took stripping up. Maybe even pick up an employment application and leave it out for him to find. I'm curious to see if he would be more adverse to strip clubs if it was his wife or daughter working it.
2006-12-04 05:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your panties in a bunch...This is perfectly normal behavior. I think you are just upset that your hubby is probably gonna get all horned up and come home to you for a little somethin' somethin'.
You should be happy that your husband and son are bonding. And just think, knowing that your son is interesting in going to a strip club means that one day you will have grandbabies (if you know what I mean).
You should support your husband and son in this. Offer to drive them and pick them up so they won't be drinking and driving. Heck you might even want to go with them and join in on the fun. Strippers love seeing women in the crowd, they will show you a really good time.
Go for it Mom!!!!
2006-12-04 11:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're husband is disrespecting you, and in front of your son. 1. your husband shouldnt be going to a strip club, at all, especially with his son. 2. he's teaching his son it's okay for him to go to strip clubs and see naked women where they'll be degrated by "them". 3. he's also teaching your son that when he gets married, how to treat his wife, and obviously your husband isn't considering you're feelings in this matter.
Tell you're husband no way, and that if he goes the locks will be changed on every door into the house and that there will be a map to the ymca on the front door and $3.00 under the door matt and to have a good night.
but thats just me....find whats right for you and good luck.
2006-12-04 13:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It’s not right; your husband must be an example. You can do nothing, just your son can say no. If they go, just know that your son is a man and not a little boy anymore. Maybe it’s better if he do this kind of stuff with someone that know more about life before he does it with friends that don't know anything. Your husband wants part in him becoming a man, he just have a different view of life that you have, but he doing it with love, I know its hard, but try to respect it and don’t make a big deal of it, just gonna start a fight, laugh about it and know your son is in the right hands when he is there. But form a mother’s point of view, it’s not right.
2006-12-04 05:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by confussie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is ur husband trying to teach him how to hold strippers? he is outta his mind.
He should do him something that will be good for his future, not take him to a strip club, ur son wont need his father to take him there he can go by himself with his friends. And that is what ever parent is trying to prevent, not take their kids there.
2006-12-04 05:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son wants to go to a strip club for his birthday, that is up to him. I really don't think that it is appropriate for his father to take him though. Fathers should teach their sons to respect women. Taking him to a strip club is not doing that.
2006-12-04 09:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think its your husband who wants to get his kicks and is using your son just so he has a reason to go. I 'd say no. Let your son learn that women are to be respected not leered at, What kind of example is your stupid husband trying to set.
2006-12-04 05:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
did you ever watch that one talk show about the parents that hired a stripper to come into their home for their son? well they were arrested and charged with several different things. i would think twice about allowing this to happen.
2006-12-04 08:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋