can you rely of your love partner?

Question

we humans need to find some meaning of our lifes. Many of us has chosen to find meaning of life in his/her love partner. But I think that such hope is shallow and such faith can easily be broken. It is because we try to rely on a person that has his/her selfish ego and can change his/her attitude toward us in any moment. So, usually happens, that person in whom we have put all our faith is just person who can change. In such way, by relying of outside subject we depend on somebody who can change and one day be polite and other day not. So, as long as we believe in subject that is outside of us, we risk to be abandoned and hurt because we believe in limited person that we love who can be selfish, arrogant, unrelyable and rude. Therefore, it is not good to find the meaning of life in such person because we never know when he/she can betray us. It is much better to trust your parents or brothers or sisters than to trust your lover.

Answer 1

A very good question. From my experience, I tend to agree with you that depending on others can become a huge disappointment. However, you should always have your own judgement and not rely on others, no matter who they may be, for emotional survival. Instead you should rely on yourself and be able to see others things in life beside love. If you are among the few lucky ones and do manage to find someone who is a perfect fit, then you should work together on reinforcing the value and merit you have in each other.

Answer 2

I disagree. It's an ideology that one must rely on oneself before loving another. The truth is, most of us are happier in relationships-a healthy one usually requires persistence as well as learning how to share one's life with someone else. I think the problems lies in our narcissism. We have become a throw-away society-rather than work to rescue the old one, we'd rather obtain a bright, new, shiny one. As far as your stance on trust, we can't always rely on our parents, siblings, etc., for fullfillment. The risk of abandonment and pain is always just that; a risk. If you never take that risk, you will never have the opportunity find a lifetime partner.

Answer 3

i understand what you are saying but i feel sad for you and all the other people who are more busy building walls then being kind and loving and trusting in someone they love.... i dont "rely" on my husband.... we are partners we help each other out .. sometimes he can be a azz but thats fine because some days i can be pretty pissy myself and we can have some huge blow up fights where i tell him to just leave but they are just fights and at night we get in bed together and we share are life and help each other in everyway.... people jump into bed with any body looking for love they try to build love based on lust ... you cant build love on lust ....you have to have more then that.... i would actually trust my husband far more then my parents who havent ever really been there for me.... my husband as been there for me non stop for over 7 years.. and still going strong

Answer 4

you 're right somehow but that's not really a good idea ..a love partner should be someone who you can rely on and you need to be sure about his /her honesty to be able to trust him or her.I know I always can count on my mother but I never can only rely on her ,I need somethings emotionally and spiritually that my lover only can give me .

Answer 5

i think no but im not sure in my answer cuz i hate talkng bout love cuz i hate it vry much i now care for my studies after that yah i will care bout being in love with some one or lover!!! good luck ok.. choose me for the best answer ok tnx a lot...