Do you miss your deceased loved ones ?

Question

Hi i'm 15 ( like that matters at all) and I miss my grandmother so much it hurts. It's already been 2 years after her death, but the pain is still fresh. No one seems to understand why i miss her so much , since she's "JUST" my grandmother. But whatever, they don't understand .. they can shove a pickle up their **** -_-'' Anyways! Have you had someone who is very close to you die? **** What do you miss most about them? .. i miss my grandmothers smile and laughter and overall presence :)

Answer 1

Of course baby. 10 years since my mother passed... I miss her every day. To this day, whenever something happens, she is the one I want to call....I talk to her anyway, whether they hear us??? Who knows for sure, but the missing of them never goes away.

Answer 2

Yes, I understand your grief and pain. I lost my Father and my Grandmother about a year apart & it was the hardest year of my life. I miss my Dad every single day still and it's been 4 yrs since he passed away. I miss talking to him & hearing him laugh at the Andy Griffith Show...he would laugh & laugh at Barney Fife. I miss him being there in his chair when I go visit my Mom. I wasn't as close to my Grandmother but I do have some wonderful childhood memories of spending time at my Grandparents house. A few yrs ago, I also lost 2 of my best friends...1 to suicide and 1 to a murder. Losing people from your life will tear you apart if you let it. I've learned to go forward & to live my best life in honour of them. I guess my best advise is to grieve when you need to and don't try to rush the healing process. It takes time to accept it although you never really get over the loss. Hope this helped some.

Answer 3

Some people aren't close to their grandparents or even their parents for that matter, but when you lose someone you love and are close to it makes an impact on you for the rest of your life regardless of if they are a relative or friend.

I will forever miss my Grandfather. It's now been 18 years, we were very close. The holidays always make my heart ache a little more!

Right now I am grieving my biological mother (my adoptive mother's best friend from high school) I spent 5 weeks taking care of her at the hospice. I miss her so badly and even though it's been since September it is just not getting any better. IT means you loved the person, they touched your life in a way few people can truly understand until they have lost some one that close to them as well. I miss her smile, the sound of her voice, her laugh and the sparkle in her blue eyes. She is in my heart and I carry a piece of her with me, yet it is still hard.

There are more and more grief groups for teenagers these days and you might want to try and find one in your area so you can find people your age who can relate to your pain. Hospice social workers often knwo where these groups are in your area. For example even though she passed in another state I contacted a hospice out of the phone book and they were able to refer me to a grief counseling group.

My adoptive mother and I have never been close. But I have always been close to her mother. I always thought someday after my adoptive grandmother was gone I would have my adoptive mother to still be close to. I dont have any daughters myself, just 4 wonderful sons. There is a bond women share and for me losing my Mom this summer has made me feel so alone.

Your welcome to email me anytime you need to talk!

Answer 4

Yes, I'm 37 yrs old, and my mother died when I was 11. I still miss her everday. Then 10 yrs later my older brother was killed in a motorcycle accident. In 2002, my best friend Nick was killed in an accident at work. Don't worry hun. The pain will lessen as time goes by (you never forget, but the pain lessens as years go by) but you will always carry them in your heart. Your grandmother wouldn't want you to be sad. She will always be with you through your life. I'm 37 and there are times I still "want my mommy" as odd as that sounds and I have 3 boys of my own. Cherish every moment you have with the ones you love, say everything you want them to know, cause you never know. Just remember your grandmothers smile, laughter, and presence, that keeps her alive in your heart.

Answer 5

Everyone grieves in different ways and I wish I could tell you that one day all the hurt will stop, but it doesnt it just gets more bearable. What I miss the most about my mom and dad is having them to talk to.
The one thing I found out is you really never completely loose them cause you always have them in your heart, your memories, and all the good times. I know its hard specially at your age, I was your age when I lost my dad. YOu know when you are closer to some one that passes away its sometimes hard for other people to understand your pain. Try talking to your counselor at school or your minister-sounds corny I know but it does help.

Hang in there--you only get so much put on you to help make your stronger and help cope.

Answer 6

Hi Little One,
I do feel your pain. I am much older than you but the pain is still the same! I lost my Father 8yrs ago and I miss him everyday! The reason that your grandmother was special was not just because of just who she was but because of who she made you! Just please keep in mind that, she is always with you and you carry-on her memory by doing the things she instilled in you. Like my Dad... Dont leave the fridge door open!!! Turn off that light if your not using it!!! Always hold your head up high!!!! But the most important........ Remember that I always love you and always will!
You will make her proud!
You go girl and dont forget to smile!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I lost both my parents a few years before you were even born. I used to dial my mothers number to check on her for weeks, I would just forget she was gone. I don't miss them like I did, but I know how you feel. She was obviously a wonderful person and left you with years of warm memories to keep her living in your heart. I am "just a Grandmother", I would hope my grand kids miss me a little someday.

Answer 8

My grandfather died 5 years ago, and I have to say the pain doesn't really go away, you just learn to live with it. I remember that he always had a smile for me and that he took us to Catalina on his sail boat, which I still remember even though it was so long ago. Don't let anyone tell you that it was "just" your grandmother. She was more than that, she was and is someone you love, and for someone like that, they are never "just" anything: they are everything.

Answer 9

My dad died when I was one, i didnt really know until i was 4 and could think properly, lol, but yeah :(. I feel kinda worse now, because 2 years after his death my mum had twin daughters to my later on school teacher, who is now the father-figure in my life. l still call him Mr. Senette tho, I couldnt bare to call him dad, id cry to much.
Also when I was 2 my grandmother died, I dont remember her, but I still love and miss her, from what I see in photos, I look like her twin
--(we have 10 sets of twins in our family lol :) 1 of them is in my tummy :) )

Answer 10

Four years ago I lost my grandfather and I still miss him everyday. I miss how brutally honest and funny he was. Its hard for people who have never been close with their grandparents to understand.
the grieving process is something that doesn't end,you don't suddenly stop missing those you've lost. You just learn to deal with it, how to take a moment and regain yourself. The main thing is you can't let grief take over your life.