What would you advise - a marriage where 2 people simply do not connect except for household issues, and there is no physical contact for more than a year. Should people try to remain friends and stick together because of the children, or should they separate, especially if he has found love elsewhere?
I need to know what to say because I am lost between thinking about her children, yet knowing she knows he'd rather be with someone else.
2006-12-03 20:26:54 · 15 answers · asked by Sugar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in a loveless marriage for many, many years. My thought was that is was better to stay together for the children. The longer we stayed together the worst things got! (And the children noticed and payed the price as well!) Advice, do not stay in a loveless, non-physical, non-emotional relationship. (How can that be healthy for you or the kids?) If its possible to remain friends, thats great! Thats how you would want to approach the situation for the childrens health and well being! Let the healing begin for all and stop putting off the inevitable. Time does heal all, sometimes it takes alittle longer. Let the kids begin now! There lives will be better and so will yours and your ex-partners.
Do the right thing as ADULTS!
Wish you the best!
2006-12-03 20:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by justjellybeans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect that physical attraction between the couples has been lost. If she feels that her husband would be happier elsewhere, she should go on with her own life. Focus on personality development and other interesting activities that she craves for. Find love and happiness by being close with her children. Yes, they should remain friends, but keep separate lives. Who knows..."distance makes the heart grows fonder".
2006-12-04 06:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by Earthlings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can see that u are stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can see where people can think that its best for the kids if u stick together, but sometimes its better for the family to go your seperate ways. I think it would be something to talk about with the children, not sure how old the kids are, but that would also be a deciding factor, if you are the other woman, than if they do split up, dont rush into the childs life as "their other mother" if they dont know about you now, let them not know u a little longer so they dont think your trying to take their mommies place and such. good luck. really tough
2006-12-04 04:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never stay because of the children this will bring to much stress to them,and if one of you found love somewhere else separate,but try yo remain friends if possible
2006-12-04 18:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by james g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is over. The children know on some level. It is more harmful for the kids to keep on like that than to have a freindly divorce.
2006-12-04 07:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sad situation yet it is so common.I would say move on and go their sepearte ways but only once they have both confirmed that the love is gone.We all know that you have to make an effort for any relationship to work,have they made that effort?Maybe counciling will help them but truly why not try to make it work than walk away.
2006-12-04 04:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no point of two people staying together for the kids. Its acutally worse for them to be raised in an unpleasant household like that. My advise is to stay friends and civil for the sake of the kids...seprate if your really not happy...regardless if you have another or not! Good luck hunny and god bless!
2006-12-04 04:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by nightskystar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to leave him she doesnt have to remain friends with him just because she has kids with him,if he has found love with someone else then she needs to show her kids the right thing to do,she is only going to hurt her self more staying with him and she is not setting the right example for her children
2006-12-04 04:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wont advise you to seperate. If you are there for such a long time, you must have realized there is a HOPE. Try once more, find out the solution, speak about differences....! Then you can take your decision but please dont forget future of your children.
2006-12-04 04:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by V 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be great parents together for the kids sit down talk it through rationally and let this one go for your kids sake and yours.
2006-12-04 04:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋