Married for almost 4 yrs. We have had only minor problems so far. I'm 29. She's 23. She tells me that she "doesn't love me like that". It's more like a best friend. I have made a lot of personal progress within myself as far as dealing with my personal issues. I am trying desperately to save our marriage. I love her so much! Since she left 2 weeks ago I realize that even more. She is staying with her mother now. Mom has been divorced 3 times. My wife has been burned by numerous close relationships. Both family and friends. I think she is having commitment issues because of her own family growing up. I think this is some kind of defense mechanism that I can't seem to penetrate. I am in this marriage for better or worse. She is so pessimistic about seeing me in a different light. She doesn't seem to be sexually interested in me. I know she has not cheated on me, but I think she can't see a future for us because she has never seen it with her mom.
2006-12-03
20:19:57
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cohrsman
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How the heck can I get her to see this without offending her? I believe that our marriage is repairable, but can't seem to get her to get on the same page. She is really enjoying her time at home (duh) with friends and family. She thinks she wants to live there. I think I need to stop calling her and give her some space. That way she will see what life would be without me. Just her and the boys. Oh, she hasn't worked at all during the marriage. I am in the military and work a 2nd job and am a very good provider (financially). I now see that our standard of living could take a hit in order for me to be at home with her and the kids more. I don't want to lose her forever. Please help me decide what to do! I don't want to make anymore mistakes and I don't want to push her. I know I can't make her love me, but I'm sure that she does deep down in her heart.
2006-12-03
20:26:28 ·
update #1