my fiance has left me with no explanation other than he 'needs time to think' i cant speak to him as he wont answer his phone. i was frantic when he didnt come home last night and was on my way home to call the police i was so worried when i eventually found him just wandering about, he wouldnt tell me what was wrong and we havnt been arguing. we have had a rough time in the past but things have been great for ages now although my friends and family have only just warmed to him after the trouble we have had. i feel really depressed and i dont want to bring this baby up on my own i want us to be a family..has anyone been through anything like this..some freindly advice is much needed x
2006-12-03 20:04:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Pregnancy was planned, it was my fiance that first suggested it, i didnt really ever want kids but i fell in love with him and the idea of my own little family.
2006-12-03 20:17:30 · update #1
Let him go, with an explanation of "needs time to think" girl have been here before, men are so silly. Looks like he is getting "cold feet" so leave him for now, let him have time, DO NOT ring him, as much as you want to.He will then wonder why you haven't rang and call round to see what he is missing out on. If you were not having a baby i would say pick up your skirts and run and thank god that you had been saved
2006-12-04 00:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to read that you have family and friends. Your fiance might not be able to handle the pressure and I'm glad you have some support.
If he isn't ready to be a family then it's best you go it alone with the support of your family. You can't force someone to be a good husband and father.
It doesn't sound like this breakdown of his has been going on very long. Give it some time and maybe he will come around. God bless you and your baby.
2006-12-04 04:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously somethings Wrong perhaps he's nervous about the baby was it a planned pregnancy give him some time a day or 2 and if he hasn't sorted himself out perhaps u should help him along by kicking his a*** out the div in the meantime be around those who love u friends family good luck with the baby and everything !! xxx
2006-12-04 04:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by sassy! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through this.
The only medicine for this right now is one you may not have the resources of - TIME. The reality may be finally hitting home, and it may be a rough time for him. RIght now, you need to be around positive people, and recognise that he will make his choices in his time, but your baby will always be YOUR baby - something beautiful and wonderful that comes only from YOU.
Pregnancy and early months of childrearing is hectic on the hormones so please let your doctor know once baby is born if you experience any depression because it is normal, and can be helped. You must focus on yourself. It is selfish of him to go off at this time, but it cannot be helped and you must shift your focus to your baby and yourself. Get your family and friends closer around you - you'll need their support when baby comes. And who knows - maybe he'll see baby and all his fears will vanish - littlies have that miraculous ability.
God bless you and your little one. Ameen.
2006-12-04 04:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like hes scared.
and you need to be around people that care about you and your child.
it will be really really hard but try not to think about things too much. concentrate on your child.
if its meant to be he will come round soon enough. otherwise your family may have been right not to warm to him in the first place and if that is the case, you are better off alone or with someone else than with him
good luck
2006-12-04 04:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if everything has been going well with you 2 then he is probably scared too. a baby is a big responcibility and he must know that. just sit him down and tell him how fun it will be and how great it will feel having a baby that is half you and half him. it really isnt as hard to take care of a baby as most people make it out to be, and they are not as expensive either.
2006-12-04 04:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrid situation to find yourself in. I would suggest trying to (I know its not easy) concentrate on the birth and the baby. There is nothing you can do to change the way he thinks, just lets hope he sees sense and comes home to you. Best of luck, and don't be scared.
2006-12-04 04:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't say he was leaving you alone, he said he needed time to think. You could have his child any day now and he will be expected to provide for this baby's needs. He's probably thinking "how are we going to afford to get a crib, crib bedding, diapers, diaperpail, changing table, pad,& covers, carseates, stroller, carrier, hooded towels, wash cloths, shelves, blankets, socks, hoodies, clothes, pajamas, wipes, lotions and bodywashes, firstaid kit, diaperbags, bassinet, rocker, breastpumps, bottles, burpies, bibs, infant bathtub, swing, playmat, babymonitors, highchair,mobile" and the list goes on and on. Plus the holidays...
2006-12-04 06:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to think maybe he's just freakin out, dont depend on him too much tho u can't force him... If he doesn't want u & the baby its HIS loss. Keep the baby, u can def do it w/some good help & guidance:)
Congrats!!! Best wishes to u & ur precious baby!!!!!!!
2006-12-04 04:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he sounds like a c*ck! What sort of person would do that?
I think the best thing is to spend time with friends, family and the people that REALLY care about you.
Good luck
2006-12-04 04:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by markhatter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋