me and my partner have been living together for nearly a year and are expecting our first child in feb, it seems everyone around us are getting married and here i am still not even engaged, am i wrong to be putting pressure upon my man?
2006-12-03 19:44:51 · 14 answers · asked by sali_starr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HI - to answer your question, NO.
MARRIAGE SHOULD NEVER BE RUSHED!!!
What matters most is COMMITMENT, both to each other and your newborn.
Being part of a crowd or doing something just because everyone around you is doing it is not a valid excuse for marriage, or anything else. (note: he will most likely offer to have the baby's last name be HIS on the birth certificate; you don't have to be married for that)
Take these next few months and CHERISH them with your partner. You may be surprised on Valentine's Day with your engagement ring!
2006-12-03 20:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by SMichael 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend that had a child to her partner and both their families were pressuring them to get married. She told me later she shouldn't have listened and waited til the time was right for them and not the family.
Don't rush into marriage just enjoy being with your partner and being a mum.
Plus the stress from a wedding could affect the baby.
2006-12-03 20:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by gundychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong . its your right to ask . but i dont understand why you two lived together for a year without getting married , and why did you planned a baby before marring . yes you should force your partner to get married now for the sake of the child . but dont force him much because i dont know his attitude i mean if he gets very angry and leave you at this time then there will be a problem for you , so dont force but convince him rather depending on his nature that you know morre than anyone here . GOOD LUCK and wish you a very sweet and healthy family . may god bless you
2006-12-03 20:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you both should talk and get married as early as possible because you are going to get a child. You will have a heathy attitude towards pregnancy and will get a happy and healthy child.
2006-12-03 19:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kumari V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if it is right or wrong. Go with your gut feelings, but to put pressure on your man isn't the way to go. Maybe ask him about it and see what he thinks or feels about it.
2006-12-03 19:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby or no baby, i don't think marriage should be rushed. it's has to be mutual. a marriage cert does not bind two people together or guarantee happiness, love, trust and committment do. Do not be pressurised by your peers or society norms. Do what makes the 2 of you happy...
2006-12-03 19:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you out pressure on your man, he may just marry you because of that. give him time and let him go at his own pace, then when u 2 do get married, it will be for love, not because he feels like he has to.
2006-12-03 19:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. You've been together a year and now expecting a baby. If you love each other why not make a commitment.
2006-12-03 19:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should not be rushed but with your circumstances being pregnant, you should pressure him at least to register the marriage so that the baby will be born with a father's name on its certificate.
2006-12-03 19:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by yoyo l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he sees it as pressure then yes, don't push. Its better to wait and be sure then rush in and be miserable later.
2006-12-03 19:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋