2006-12-03 19:14:35 · 42 answers · asked by iluvcowboyzandlawdawgs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with your spouse, and encourage him to do the same. Depending on the state in which you reside, you may have to have a 3-6month 'separation' before either of you can be legitimally divorced. However, l would suggest this time be used for the two of you to take care of affairs on the homefront, as well as investigate if this is what the two of you truly want. Though, if you come to find that this was just a 'fling' of sorts, it'll likely be far too late to salvage your current relationships.
Ultimately, this decison needs to weigh very heavily, since it is not nearly as simple as saying "I think we should see other people." Additionally, if neither (or one) of you are willing to be honest with your current spouses, I would take dramatic regard in where you honestly expect this 'candidate' relationship to go.
2006-12-03 19:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by MantisDream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, how old are you two? You actually sound like a juvenile. Y did you get married in the first place if you are wishing that someone else can spoon you at nite? What you should do is save your marriage. If then it cannot be saved, get counselling. However, wrecking a home to create a new one without the foundation that you have created with hubby wont last very long. Then, what would you have? Nothing! Yes, the grass always looks greener on the other side, however with the proper fertilizer yours could be just as green.
2006-12-03 19:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great you met someone but your not being fair to your husband and he is not being fair to his wife. I would think this through very carefully before I acted as once you make a choice the damage has been done. A question you should keep in mind is if you met him on the net what is the odds that when you and him are together and he gets bord again he or you won't go looking again. Would it not be better to work things out with your present spouse. Be open with him let him know what is going on within you. Explain to him why you are not happy in your marriage and give him the chance to help fix it. Most of all be honest cheaters never win.
2006-12-04 00:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got plenty of experience in situations like this. What you feel is all due to the excitement of something new. I'm sure you felt the same when you first met your husband. You are both flattered by the thought that someone else may be interested in you. Don't ruin your relationship for something that is sure to wear off just as soon as it started. Rejuvinate your relationship with your spouse and incourage your friend to do the same. Once you meet up with each other all of the excitement and fantasy will be over and then reality will hit you that you had what you wanted to begin with. Love never fades it only becomes less appreciated.
2006-12-03 20:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Williams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was in your shoes i would leave my current partner because is better to be alone then with bad company. anyways u must not like him if not u wouldnt be wanting to be with someone else. so i would leave him date the other guy for a while if it works out then get together live together if all goes as plan then well u will no that u found the right guy and if not then at least u would know that u are not with a guy that u dont care for and u wouldnt have to always wonder what if....
2006-12-03 19:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by caprichosa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should both realize that neither of you need anything other than sex and conversation since your both cheating, neither of you have honored your vows to be making love with your spouses and having open honest communication with your spouses. Do either of you recall, saying to your spouses, those words of "Thru sickness and health, for richer or poorer, til DEATH DO US PART, LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER WHAT GOD HAS BROUGHT TOGETHER.
Well, I assure you this relationship your speaking of with this man, is not put together by God, but rather by the power of the World Wide Web !
2006-12-03 19:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by sandnstars2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh I feel for you....maybe you should get together but remember the Internet is a place where you can pretend to be anything you want most ppl here are not real...beware.
2006-12-03 20:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? ... Try not doing anything, for starters !!! Your married and this guy may be on the computer from his cell in the state prision ! Are you hard up or what?
2006-12-03 19:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you both to decide.......but one thing I do know is DO NOT CHEAT............end one thing before you start another..
I hope you really know this man before you make any decisions.
But if you are unhappy in your marriage, and you know FULLY 100% that this other man is who you want ..........then go for it.
Just tread carefully, you will loose everything if you are not sure...................and I always say if in doubt Dont!!
However there is nothing wrong with the net , I have been with my guy for 2 years and we met on the net.
2006-12-03 19:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like neither of you are happy in your marrages. You could either try to work things out between the marrage or leave them. My advice is to follow your heart and if you serching on the internet your missing something from home
2006-12-03 19:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by angel 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋