She had negative feelings now a days her two younger cousin sisters who r 4-5 yrs unger than her r getting married .She had developed inferiority complex or she is not able to face any one properly not doing work effeciently due to this.She had her personal & family reason for not getting married till now but she is planning.Give ur views so I can help her.
2006-12-03 18:57:24 · 15 answers · asked by jaya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She needs to help herself. Tell her to find a way to be happy for her cousins and stop using their happiness as a way to berate herself.
Life is to short, it is not lengthened by a husband.
2006-12-03 19:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by P&B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
Jaya your friend is undergoing a depression. This is quite common in girls from Indian communities where someone younger sis or friend gets married before them. The best that you can do is just stand like a good friend by her side. Since you haven't mentioned her personal and family problem to us i can't discuss that in details. But if she is planning to get married now help her in searching for a partner. Some recommend sites for putting up her biodata are Shaddi.com, Bharatmatrimonial.com. Help her putting up her details on the site. Give her compliments and tell her that she will also find her soul mate soon and that she should not worry and that all will be well.
Hope your friend will find her match soon.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-04 03:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is finding the RIGHT person to live with,its not the time when ur marriage happens,but with the RIGHT person.
"PATIENCE PAYS", Everything is for the good, the best in life, always comes when awaited the most.
Let me state an example where my sister was in a similar situation,and one of the proposal which came for her was diverted to one of my cousin,turned out to be a bad marriage.We thank God for saving us from such a disaster.
2006-12-08 01:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey what's the big deal about getting married! It is not a milestone to be reached with any age limits.
Marriage is an encounter, to be involved with the right frame of mind. Your friend should not get married taking age, other siblings or other friends as competition.
Just tell her to focus on overcoming her and her family's present problems and consider getting married with the proper frame of mind lest she takes a hasty leap which may land her into more problems
2006-12-05 08:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Papillon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it might be a good idea to tell her that a husband doesn't make the grade if she doesn't feel good about herself. When one feels confident and secure in themselves they also give of those signals to others as well.
Might it be a good idea if she went to someone to talk to about this problem like a professional. maybe there are underlying matters that make her feel this way about herself.
Maybe something in her past that has brought this on.
It might be wiser if instead of getting involved with someone to seek therapy to find out the real reason why she is feeling low about herself.
Maybe she is not even aware of it and with therapy will start feeling better about herself.
Something is wrong but what may come out in therapy as well.
whatever her personal family reasons may be it might not be the best time to get married right now.
I hope she feels better soon
2006-12-04 03:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What in the world is bothering her? She actually feels that she is supposed to align her life with her cousins? Anything they do she has to do first?. Well maybe they will be divorced before her. She just needs to be wise and find the right person for her. I will bet in 10 years she will not even remember this.
2006-12-04 03:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her try to see her positive traits. Inferiority complex is just in the mind. Let her change her behavior. It is just not her time to marry but tell her , her time will come too sooner or later, she will just have to wait.
2006-12-05 07:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what if her younger sis are getting hooked up. Tell her not to worry cos every1 has their own time. Remind her "One who waits patiently gets the best" and "One who laughs the last laughs the best".
2006-12-04 08:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by garfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems are with us sooner we come out of our mother womb and they will be till your last breath. So it state of our mind that will soothe and strengthen our mind to face them. Marrying is not the ultimate pleasure. Our greates sorrow is in comapring with others. We must live our life in our style. bee cheered up and enjoy thsi life.
2006-12-04 05:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by raj30gk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aask her to durga pooja on fridays.she shouldnt take salt on that day like that 21fridays. on 22nd friday invite 9kanyas offer the food and clean the area (herself only.)and eat.the left over.in the dish. problems will get solved.
2006-12-05 08:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by kalasarpa009 k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋